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I'm happy to hear you had a good time camping. When I say this post, I decided to take my three kids camping and white water rafting on the weekend of the 26th. We used to do it every year, but not for the last couple.

I totally understand how you are feeling and that up and down feeling about progress and backsliding. It is so much easier to take that positive DB step then to sustain it. I always have the best intentions when I try something, but then I seem to semi-cave in and not follow through.

It is difficult when there is a 3rd person in the mix. My W has a OM and seeing that justs eats away at you. I know I have to stay out of that (and I do) but it is hard to be patient hoping for that relationship to fail.

So, I continue to dedicate myself everyday to working on myself and my relationships with family and friends. It helps, but I am such an impatient DAM.

(((Jeff, Bliss)))

I backslid last night. I had had two rather large glasses of wine by the time he made it in around 9. I told him I didn't want to sleep in the other room. He said I didn't have to if I didn't want to.

I also asked him indirectly about if he'd heard from Ginny. He said she contacted him by email. I know it was wrong to ask and he got very worried that I was going to email or call her. I assured him I wasn't going to but that I was worried.

Even if he doesn't feel that way toward her, he has been her confidant and that creates an emotional attachment. I said I didn't like to think he'd have someone encouraging him to give up. He replied that he had no interest in taking on any woman's problems or being their hero. She is just a friend he'd had a long time and they talk. And he added that no one is encouraging that and he is making up his own mind.

So, we cuddled and had some time together. It was left a bit unsettled and I know I probably stepped all over the DB line.

Today starts the 180's. I just have to. I realize that though he considers us separated that he is coming home to me every night. He sees me and talks to me every day. That is much preferable to him being gone.

I think tonight I will be busy. I have a take-home test to do for my math class and I'm supposed to meet someone for an icecream cone around 7.

There's always the library if I need it, too. Or I could stay in and get some cleaning done. I don't know.

I am so grateful that today is a new day. You guys are great. I need to get with the program ala Smart Cookie. I know I can, I know I have to.

(((Jeff, Bliss)))

I backslid last night. I had had two rather large glasses of wine by the time he made it in around 9. I told him I didn't want to sleep in the other room. He said I didn't have to if I didn't want to.

I also asked him indirectly about if he'd heard from Ginny. He said she contacted him by email. I know it was wrong to ask and he got very worried that I was going to email or call her. I assured him I wasn't going to but that I was worried.

Even if he doesn't feel that way toward her, he has been her confidant and that creates an emotional attachment. I said I didn't like to think he'd have someone encouraging him to give up. He replied that he had no interest in taking on any woman's problems or being their hero. She is just a friend he'd had a long time and they talk. And he added that no one is encouraging that and he is making up his own mind.

So, we cuddled and had some time together. It was left a bit unsettled and I know I probably stepped all over the DB line.

Today starts the 180's. I just have to. I realize that though he considers us separated that he is coming home to me every night. He sees me and talks to me every day. That is much preferable to him being gone.

I think tonight I will be busy. I have a take-home test to do for my math class and I'm supposed to meet someone for an icecream cone around 7.

There's always the library if I need it, too. Or I could stay in and get some cleaning done. I don't know.

I am so grateful that today is a new day. You guys are great. I need to get with the program ala Smart Cookie. I know I can, I know I have to.

mrz99,

I just read your sitch this morning. Maybe we can motivate each other to DB? I'll try something tonight and post here tomorrow. You do the same. It will be contest of sorts. Just in fun, no winners or losers.

You might want to read my last post (few minutes ago). Ordinarily I would be game for the challenge. However, I think the only opportunity over the next few days will be to stay very very dark. I have absolutely no intention of contacting the W in the next couple days and if she tries to contact me I will not answer the phone. My only chance of actually having any contact with her is if she shows up at my house. Right now I doubt that will happen. Go read my latest.

Mrz99,

What is the topic of your thread. I think I need to read some of it?

Suzanne

Riding the Rollercoaster

mrz99,

Going dark is part of DB'ing and we can certainly challenge each other with it. Tonight, what would be the sweetest diversion you could think of? I'm thinking icecream with chocolate sprinkles. And, I did post on your thread.

Put the hardshell on the ice cream! If you are going to do something, do it right!

((((((Kelly Jo))))))

I do that going dark is part of DB'ing but I started that awhile back. I was assuming you were challenging me to try something new. That is tough when you are dark ... but I am still trying to think of something interesting.

If the answer is a sweetest diversion, then I think I am going to have to pick up some Turtle Cheesecake. I am a really softie for cheesecake.

mrz99/Mark