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Wow, you are easy. Just someone who knows where to stick his wires, and a camera to save the event for posterity. Sign me up!

Wow, that did make me sound easy!!! I don't want you to think I'm that easy--I need to read more closely don't I?????

Not easy sweetie, just a woman who knows what she wants in a ahem computer guy!

Back to the daily grind. A regular work week, but after the road trip and house purchase, I really feel like a short-timer here, more than ever. Until a few months ago, moving wasn't really on my radar. On the other hand, our family moved quite a bit when I was growing up -- every 1-3 years. So I never really got too attached to places. I also think that is why it takes me a while before I'll let my guard down and get to know people as well. But that is something to address in therapy -- ha! Anyway, there was some interest in the house from the person looking yesterday. At this point, I'm likely to accept any reasonable offer without too much quibbling.

Of course the biggest separation is with W. But that really has already happened, and my mindset is no longer "she's gone, what am I going to do without her" to more of "I really miss her, but I can have a happy future without her". Our final D-Day is a week from today, and I am not anticipating the theatrics of last time. No heart-felt letters or last minute phone calls. Just a simple court appearance to legally finalize what has already happened in her heart.

Once again G I'm praying for you. Not the same prayer as before but different this time. All of the above sounds good and seems yourt mind is right. Have fun this week and stay off the coaster. Triggers coming up.

Praying for strength for Gforce.

Keep on keeping on.

I'm right there with you g. Wish my D-Day was closer than 3 months away - just want to get it over with right now.

Have you heard from W at all?

lodo

lodo, she hardly ever calls any more. And lately, will not pick up when I call her -- so I don't really try any more. I think she doesn't want to upset her boyfriend by talking to her husband when he is around.

But I did see her at work today and we got to talk for a few minutes. She looked radiant, and (I know this is weird) she smelled great. Nothing in the house still has any residual W-scent on it. I miss it. We were able to talk for a few minutes, I told her about the trip, the new house, all that. I told her I've been worried about how she was doing, and still was getting used to not knowing what was going on with her. She said she is ok, her second IC appointment is scheduled for later this week.

We told each other we missed each other. Held hands and hugged some during the conversation. Then a full-blown kiss. Definitely not a polite peck. It was good to get a small deposit in the physical touch bank. I don't read anything into any of this, but it was good to see her.

Thought you stop posting cause havent seen you in Newcomers. Read a little bit what has been going on. Didnt think your date would come so fast. I have mediation that day myself with my W. Really is a bum deal when you get that affection from them and we want to think it means something. Just shows and adds confusion.

Well gee, gForce, as long as you're doing so well with the whole detachment thing, why didn't you just jump on her too?! LOL

I know what you mean about missing their smell. I've moved, so no chance of any residual.

lodo

jandn - glad you found me, haven't heard from you in a while! It doesn't add confusion and I don't think it means something. It was just what it was - a nice encounter. We'll be divorced in a week.

lodo - I wanted to jump her. Funny, cause early in our R we always made jokes about going into a back room and fooling around, just like they do on TV. She made a joke about that today. I said "but we don't do that any more", to which she replied "oh, really?" Can't help it if I still love and am still attracted to my wife. Is that detachment?

One more thing - got the final contract for the new job in the mail. Signed and expressed it back today. It's official!