Crying is healing buddy. Do you know that when babies cry in their crib, that if they cry long enough their brain will kick in to prevent psychological death, & release a chemical that causes them to fall to sleep ?
Did you know your brain releases different chemicals based on the emotion behind your tears ?
Thanks for keeping an eye on me.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Crying is healing buddy. Do you know that when babies cry in their crib, that if they cry long enough their brain will kick in to prevent psychological death, & release a chemical that causes them to fall to sleep ?
Did you know your brain releases different chemicals based on the emotion behind your tears ?
Thanks for keeping an eye on me, I hope I can keep throwing out enough off the wall stuff to make you laugh too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
how terrible to be afraid all the time. And you appear to be so needy and about wanting attention all the time too.
It seems that you have all the power now and if your H makes one false move, he's toast. I'll bet that no matter what,there will always be something that he does wrong. How awful that he has to be so hyper-vigilant.
((LS)), I'll be over asap. Hang in there, no towel throwing yet.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
You know what you're afraid of... you told him. The note was just precious. A creative, proactive big step up from just crying silently and feeling hollow.
I think maybe he is afraid he'll fail to make up for all the others who abandoned, rejected, neglected, and hurt you in the past. I think he has to understand, somehow, that he isn't expected to. In telling him why you are afraid he'll do the same, he wonders if you'll ever trust him with your heart and gets discouraged that you may not ever believe he's on your side.
Because sweetie, he's on your side. Stay brave.
(((((D))))) thank you, that makes sense to me.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I can also agree that your H is on your side. As scared as you can be I am sure that he is just as scared. To lose someone once is such an ordeal and not one you want to go through more then once. Sometimes I need a direct line approach with what my wife needs, because sometimes we are such dolts. Keep up the communication with him, I know he is there for you.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Let me tell you here how much your posts have meant to me. I'm so scared my WAW is out the door as I type this. Seems like everything I'm trying is pushing her in the wrong direction.
Keep up the good work you've done with your H. coming from a DAM LBS I think he knows how fortunate he is.
Last edited by KenF; 07/08/0806:57 PM.
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