Hi, thanks for coming over. I'm glad you're smiling. How was your Saturday ?
I do have a whole new life. It's really surreal. I think it will be a while longer til it sinks in that this is really the way things are.
I got in the pool with H yesterday. It was so nice & relaxing & fun. He blew up a raft for me to float on, & we just talked & floated.
In the past he would have thrown me in the pool, splashed me constantly, & annoyed me to get my attention.
I do like the new him.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I remember the feeling, missing H during his endless trips... Glad you feel this way, it's really telling of your new state of mind, isn't it? K
p.s. I'm sorry about your sitch. I wish you all the best, & that when you're ready, you'll find someone who will cherish you as you deserve.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
So.. whatcha gonna do for yourself today, Ms. cookie.. for the 5 days without the big guy?
Are the kids acting different about him leaving?
*hugs*
Hmmm, I am going to try to do a bunch of school, and read a really good book. Right now it's all overcast & sprinkling, if the sun comes out, I'll swim. & probably spend way too much time on DB & facebook.
The kids are acting the same. I just asked S12 what he thought of the "new & improved" dad. He said "he's a lot more fun to play with, & talk to. It's getting hard to remember the old way he used to be, I just remember I didn't like it".
What are you up to woman ? Anything fun this weekend ? How's D & her friend ? made up yet ?
hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
These 5 days may be a good time to work on a "surprise" for H when he returns. Can you think of any "True giving" that you can do that will "shock" H when he returns?
*Hugs*
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Oh Ready, he's had so many shocks in the past 12 months...I think I'd better be careful. A man's heart can only take so much.
We had "bathtub night" two nights in a row. I sent him a sexy e-mail this morning. I called him earlier to tell him I miss him. What more do you suggest ????
hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
