P.S - Michelle your post earlier made me think about my own interupting. I speak at a fast pace and my h at a slow pace. It has always frustrated me when he pauses for soooo long, so I jump in. I can now see that would be REALLY annoying. Thanks for th insight x
Hi Jeff. I was just thinking aloud on my thread, and I thought "I need a drink!" ...So, I came over here.
It's 113 degrees here (OK, make me feel better, tell me what is it where you are). My life is crazy, my head is spinning, I got a great nights sleep last night...serve me up something strong.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I am by nature a fast thinker and talker. I have an annoyingly bad habit that while the other person is talking I only half listen, b/c I am already preparing my response. I have heard how bad that is a million times from counselors, professors, etc. but I still do it.
Also, my H is a slower reader, slower thinker (for personal stuff anyway), slower talker, too. I compulsively jump in on his pauses b/c I feel the conversation is dying. I am trying to change that.
Also I am defensive so as soon as H starts down a line of convo. that is critical of me, I am sure I shut down on the listening and start building my defense.
OK that was all about me...sorry! Just meaning we all have our communication issues. My H still resents me talking over him, too. But I have 2 sisters and whenever H comes to my house he is amazed that we all talk at the SAME time but are able to follow the conversation?!? He can't stand it....
Feathered socks sound itchy. But you could go to the pet supply store. They have feathers on the end of a stick to tease your cat with. You could just tease Lisa with it instead...
But I have 2 sisters and whenever H comes to my house he is amazed that we all talk at the SAME time but are able to follow the conversation?!? He can't stand it....
LMAO. That sounds like me and my sister, and me and a lot of my friends. Hell, my old roommate and I regularly carry on side by side stream of consciousness conversations over IM. Somehow managing to both talk and respond to each other in overlapping weird ways. It works for us.
Needless to say, it doesn't work for my H lol.
I also get uncomfortable with long pauses and jump in. Something I VERY much have to work on. It has severely hindered my H talking to me, and while I don't see him wanting to work on the M, it's certainly something I need to do better at in the future in all aspects of my life.
Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
Feathered socks sound itchy.
Yes, they do! LMAO.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Isn't it sad when that is cooler??? LMAO.