Ready, I'm so glad you had some great time with your kids. You do sound like the party weekend dad !
hugs
And I get weekdays too (at least for now)! I really want some one on ones with the kids, but that is going to have to wait (or I can get them while other two are around the house...)
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I am doing the "nesting" thing and during my W's parenting time I am away from the house. Last Thursday I spent at my moms house. I didn't have my own book to read, so I found one of hers and was reading. (I'll see if I can get author/title next time I'm up there) While reading this book, another one of those "light bulb moment" happened.
It talked about cherishing every moment. The author stated that most people focus on cherishing only the 5% that they consider special moments and not paying attention to the good things the other 95% of the time. One example of what she said: Have your favorite picture located so it is the first thing you see when you wake up. She said surround yourself with things you enjoy....
Anyway, I took the time to enjoy "the now" by looking at how nice mom had the guess room decorated, how nice the carpet felt to my feet. In the shower I really focused on how nice the warm water felt, the interesting smell of the soap. I really liked the coloring of the washcloth....I did this throughout the day, and guess what...I had a great day!
So, the point is, there are so many things that you can enjoy, they will significantly outweigh the negative things we perceive are happening right now....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I was at the Mile High Music Festival all day Sat and part of the day Sunday (Press pass, so I was taking photos). I had a good time. Lots of things to see, hear, smell and experience. I was taking in all the wonderful things going on...The warm air, the smell of the food, the sounds from the bands (50 all together), the nice looking women, the words of the songs...
I also enjoyed hanging out and talking to one of the other photographers. We were having a good time finding and talking "victims" into doing interesting things so we can take their photos...
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Congratulations on meeting a baby goal! It must have been great to hear. I think I'm going for something like that a week from Friday concerning temporary alimony and child support. I figure your lawyer tells you what to do, you dress conservatively and bring a friend to keep you company. It also helps to have another set of ears.
I love your appreciating the moment. What a great way to live life. I'm going to try that!
Time with your kids becomes so special. It sounds like you know great ways to have fun. Kids will always say what you hope they won't, like your son with the soda. What a riot!
Keep doing what you're doing, moving ahead, keeping your goals and being a great dad.
Oh ya, I hit a deer driving to work today (at about 50MPH). Everyone in the car was fine (Kids and I). I now have a rental for the next few weeks.....
Tonight is the last night with kids till Sunday....
House is spotless for W's return....
Omgosh, I'm so glad you are all okay. How bad is the car ? How bad was the deer ? What kind of rental ? Does the rental get better gas mileage than your vehicle ? What color was the washcloth ? j/k teehee
hugs.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
One example of what she said: Have your favorite picture located so it is the first thing you see when you wake up. She said surround yourself with things you enjoy....
This sounds wonderful...not just the favorite picture idea, but the overall concept of living with a sense of abundance instead of poverty. It's the same reason I buy myself flowers, buy lemonade from kids on the corner, and sing along with my favorite song on the radio. Sorry, I don't have anything to offer on your court sitch. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
What kind of rental ? Does the rental get better gas mileage than your vehicle ? 
What color was the washcloth ? j/k teehee