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Well then I have lots of stuff in the way. I hope I feel relief when it is over but know that I will feel sadness too. I am not trying to be a drama queen just overwhelmed and tired of all of his cr@p.

I am going to start mapping out my dream life and see what I can do to get there. No Bryan allowed. Friends are welcome.

kat

Hey kat,

You NEED to feel relief. I think that's the hardest transition to make, though. We're so busy DBing that when it finally ends, it's hard to move on and seek our own happiness. But there's no reason why we shouldn't - in fact, we should be FOCUSING on that, not our WAS. Why should they get all the pleasure and we have nothing but pain?

Map out your dream life. Be prepared for the fact that you won't have a straight line towards happiness, but as long as you embrace life and approach things with the same power you've brought to bear to your M, you'll do great!

So, what is the first dream? I love to travel but have always been nervous to do it alone. I'm heading to Scotland next month - don't know how it'll go, but why not try?

BTW, I read Time Traveler's Wife - I'd definitely have to classify that as chick lit.

lodo

I agree with Lodo....the transition is tough. I think it is tough because you already had set dreams. I know that I had dreams of having children with H (last fall we talked about starting to try in 2008). I have to let go of that dream and starting making new ones. The first one for me is to re-decorate my house. I always let H do the decorating because he was good at it, but some of the choices he made weren't what I liked. So the house is mine and the bedroom will soon be yellow (and not from him smoking in there...because I am painting it!)

What are you going to do??

Hey the token male in our book club liked it! Just an FYI as well, I didn't pick all of these, I wanted to read Confederates in the Attic but everyone else chose Fast Food Nation!! Whatever.

I have to practice typing now.

kat

I have lots of dreams. some I put on hold because the kids are still young. I love to travel. It is so much easier without the kids but I really like to share those experiences with friends or family. My last trip was to Denmark. I stayed with my Danish sister for 2 weeks. H was e-mailing me daily then.

Anyway travel will play a part. I also have several ideas for stories/books so I will try to flesh those out. I am going to set a bit of time aside each week to just write ideas and then start connecting the thoughts. Some of the ideas are based on my own experiences others are just that, ideas.

I also need to start making this house just mine. So some rooms need to be redone. My problem is where to begin, I might just put all the names of the rooms in a hat and pick one!

Well that is all a start. Oh, and I might start working on my Masters.

kat

I have a lot of friends that travel extensively with their young children. I think the more you do it, the easier it becomes - as with all things. There was an article in newsweek about single parent travel options - group vacations catering to single parents so that kids meet other kids and adults meet other adults. Not for relationship, but conversation and understanding of the pressures single parents face.

Changing the house around is, i think, essential. And it doesn't need to cost a lot.

hope your day is good - lodo

Oh, that does sound like fun! I'm going to look into that and see if I can save up for one of them. Sounds good!

Yeah, I've been trying to paint and need to paint more, got some inexpensive new curtains (on clearance), etc. That is really nice. And don't forget the extra closet space!!! Karen

Minor crisis at home..D7 cut her knee pretty bad. Trying to get the details over the phone is sketchy. H is there with her. They got her cleaned up and I guess H was trying to figure out what to do while the kids were telling me what happened.

H wants to use the insta-bandage stuff that we have used for small cuts and then try to bandage it up. I don't know how bad it is and I asked him to call the dr at least to see if it would work for her cut. This doesn't sound like a small cut.

I am dying for my boss to get here so I can leave and check it out. I have got to let H try to do this.

kat

I hope she is ok. I can only imagine what it is going to be like if wife and I split. Wanting to just go and try to rescue. Same for her, I suppose.

You have a normal feeling. But your doing the right thing my letting H handle it. Not rescuing him from the crisis.

Kat --

Any word on your D? Hope she's okay...

So what's this about a double feature on Sat...

Thanks for stopping in last night...

L2