Ks, Right it's all about her being selfish. Right she is hurting... She is confused. Right. She is numb. Right she is detached.... She is cold... She has the ability to fix it and doesn't want too. She can't... She doesn't know how. She is running. Her head is racing. She is trying to find peace, but can't. She is programming her head with information that isn't even there. Right, right, right and right... She comes up with one excuse after another as to why it can't work, why it will not work.
Jack, I don't know... good question. I thought this place would help, but all I see is it causing me more problems.
I'm assuming the place you are talking about is this divorce busting site. If you are speaking about some other place well I don't have an answer there either.
Jack, I think I want someone to tell me I'm not crazy. I'm doing everything I can to save my family and my wife just is not interested in doing that. I'm doing everything wrong. Now all I see is people telling me time and time again of how I handled things wrong.
I'm so overwelmed right now. I just got done reading my syllabus. I should have not went back to school. It is going to be too much. The last class was a breather, but the team project just was murder.
I guess I want someone to tell me what my wife's problem is. Is it really me or is she really having a MLC. Did the miscarriages and then the vandalism terrerism incident to our home blow up her mind?
No, you are not crazy.... But your way is not working. Why not give some of our suggestions a chance rather then throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I don't text her. I don't initate contact. I do not call her. I do not bother her. I try and created boundries and they blow up in my face. Persue don't persue. I love you, don't say I love you. These are the DB ways.
At least before all of this I was getting some affection. Some discussion. Yes it was very hot and cold. I felt like you never loved me. So I turn it on. Then she said I needed to get better before she could be my friend. Nothing getting through... I need to get better. I need to get better. I'm not the one that left. I'm not putting my kids through torment. I'm not putting my family through financial difficulties. I'm not pushing away everyone good in my life.
Yet, I'm the ba$tard. I'm the baStard that ruined her life. You know maybe she needs to hook up with a ba$tard. Someone that gambles, drinks like a fish, and runs around with a bunch of woman. Someone that doesn't care about her one bit and really treats her like a pile of crap.
Time will tell. One day there will be a reckoning. The questiong is will I still be around. Will I have the strength to do it. My love for her has never faltered, but it is ok for her to suppress or throw away the love she has for me. FOR WHAT?
Pick one or two people that you can hear and understand, and ignore the rest.
Truely ignore them.
You don't know them, they don't know you, they don't matter to you.
You are smart enough to have heard the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Are you crazy?
I do not know.
Take a look at your threads, they pretty much repeat the same pattern, something is taken the wrong way by someone and it just escalates and gets out of control. Is it just a pattern here or does this mirror your life as well?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
phil, you need to stop blaming your wife . you are still angry at her , that is obvious. mlc'ers are in a fog, everything is about them. realize that, let her focus on herself, let her work it out, you cannot do it for her. reread divorce remedy if you have read it before. there will also be a reckoning for you on how you handle this. when i get discouraged, i think about my kids, and my wife.i think about the goal.i think aboout what i will lose if the divorce goes through. then i realize my part in this and pray for more patience and strength. my wife and kids are worth dealing with this. love your wife unconditionally. until you do, you will continue to fail.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I choose Jack, AmyC, BND, SG, and IAN. Bworl if he ever comes back.
If I didn't choose anybody else sorry. Maybe I'll go through the list and add you later. Puppy please you just keep praying. craig, I know your helping but you have to type with I not i and try and paragraph some stuff.
Is it an MLC fog? Do I run through the steps. 123232343214245321
