Recovering from this sort of a situation, IMO, takes years - not weeks or months. Don't expect too much too soon
I agree~
Now the ~ow is a distant Memory. And my H had her name tattooed on his chest... It used to drive me bonkers... he had pics too on his phone. It will come to light who she really is one day. And one day you will be able to talk about it and not get upset, angry or cry. I have and you know what .... I am a better Woman because of it. Put her on complete ignore.... he is in your bed! Take care, ~Ali
I feel your pain. I DO understand why it's different an "Ex" vs. an A. And I respect your wishes for him not to keep it. I was just offering you support that he's not the only one who thinks like that. And I totally agree - he needs to take 100% responsibility.
I like you am just trying to focus on the good things (of which there are MANY!). It's amazing how so many good things can happen that I barely notice, but one little "I wonder who is IM'ing with right now" can send me into a jealous PANIC.
This nightmare has had a lot of surprises for me - I'm surprised I handled the whole A as well as I did, and now I'm surprised how HARD it is to move past it and feel confident in the relationship again.
:: sigh :: I guess time heals. But DAMN I thought 6+ months would be enough for me not to think about it every day...
And I totally agree - he needs to take 100% responsibility.