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Ok....but now she knows. No more.

Now you are an action man. An action figure. Ever see spiderman going and having these conversations? Batman?

Just SHOW her everything you want to tell her.

What do you think is her primary love language?

What were her initial complaints?


I do think KLA will help you. And I think Forrest (and others) is helping you. Now....DO WORK.

Primary love language: cards, flowers, surprises, hand holding, cuddling..etc

intial complaints: too controlling, smothering, self centered. there's others...got them written down in one of my threads..LOL...

I signed up for KLA and ordered the CD's.

however, as her primary love language are those thigns...how do i do it without seeming like i'm pursuing her?

Typically women are two LL's. One will stick out more than the other. You need to let us know.. best guess.. which "group" she falls into. They have a quick assessment on the web page it is geared toward you finding your LL but it can work the other way with some thinking.

My wife is gifts primary.. quality time secondary.

Don't get stuck in the labels.. you can do things that hit the LL.. You just have to be creative.

I read the other stuff.. little short on time.. I will try and get something up tomorrow..

where? what web page?

got it. found it. googled it. duh

i THINK...she's primarily Recieving Gifts, with a little bit of words of affirmation thrown in and physical touch (the hand holding bit)

so...ideas? I have to think and be creative here....