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Puppy said it the best!

Ask yourself why we can see how strong you are?

People can see you from way over here on their computer.

Sorry the song made you cry.. I think it shows the walk of someone who has been in your shoes. And now after time.. and healing.. she can sing about it.. that says alot.

Keep your head up Sara..

I can see you Doing Work!

Hopefully this one does not make you cry...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=B8XC7idFyvE

Now that was a much better song FG! I think I will have to download that one for my mp3 player. I loved her setting his clothes on fire at the end. What I really didn't get with the Sugarland song was the comments people were making about how she is the OW. When it is so obvious to me that she was the wife who was being cheated on.

I am proud of myself because I went through the whole day yesterday and didn't cry. I know that I am crier. Always have been and always will be. I don't always know how to express myself except through tears. And the crying does help me release a lot of my pain and anger. However, I just hate wasting my time crying.

9 more days now. I have moved almost everything of his out into the garage. I also have moved many of my things into my parents house so that he doesn't "break" anything or take anything. It is like I am going to be moving back into a new house. The big items still need to be moved out and I am afraid that he won't come move them out. Don't know if he is looking for a place to live. I think he is. He has had 8 weeks now to do this and has waited until the last minute.

9 more day....

"And the crying does help me release a lot of my pain and anger"

And it has a side effect of allowing new Emotion's to move in. Now what you fill that void with.. you can control. Remember it was not that long ago I was curled up in a ball.. crying.. and begging my wife to hold me. Things are way different now.

"He has had 8 weeks now to do this and has waited until the last minute."

Tell him he better hurry up before the sprinklers come on.

"9 more days...."

Make sure to remind him.. to take a bow.


"I am proud of myself."

I am proud of you too. I told you a while ago.. you were gonna find something you have been looking for. Its coming.

(((HUGS)))

I always thought she was OW too in that song, it referes to her hoping that "she' doesn't call and he has to leave, I assumed the she he was leaving for was his wife and the woman was asking him to stay and be with her instead.

Sugarland does play the part of the OW in the song. There was some speculation (nothing proven) that her (Jennifer Nettles) husband was cheating on her. They ultimately Divorced last year.

This was a quote from Jennifer Nettles about the song/album.. I think the quote goes along with what we are talking about...

"Any time you go through loss to that degree, anyone who has gone through a divorce can attest to that. It's so difficult and so painful. Sure, your heart is broken but what happens after that is that heart breaking leads to a lot more space within your heart for other things to come in for compassion. There are definitely things on this record that are inspired by both the pain and the beauty of going through and then surviving such a loss."

The change in "attitude" was what I was pointing out with the "Stay" song.

In the third verse, the mistress then changes her mind; according to Nettles, she (the woman in the song) "has her own sense of redemption and realizes she deserves more than being with someone who will never be fully hers".

In other words.. DB'd her butt off.. and won herself back.

We all deserve someone who wants to be with us.. simply because we are ourselves. Flaws and all.

Sorry to under explain my thoughts.. hopefully that makes it more clear.

Hi Sara,

Thanks for your kind words on my thread ...

lodo

Lodo, you know I mean them. You are someone I admire a lot in how you have handled yourself throughout this ordeal you face.

What do I know about country music? LOL I guess I was wrong. I actually have a strong dislike for country music. And I was crying so hard through that song, maybe I missed the fact that she was the OW. Man....if I had known that then I wouldn't have cried so much! HAHA

I forgot to mention that when I saw H 3 days ago I noticed that he now had dyed his hair RED! So his beautiful black hair has gone from black to brownish to blonde to blue back to blonde and now to red in a matter of 6 months. I told him that I see that he is spending that money wisely. (Those stupid hair dyes of his are at least $60 a pop!)

I forgot that I left my car parked over at my mom's house today. So it looked like I wasn't home. So H comes in and is majorly ticked off that I am here. Like it was MY fault that I am living between 2 homes and didn't have my car parked here. So I asked him if he came over to get some of his stuff. He says, "No!" Like I had majored offended him by asking that. I don't know what he did, but he was in the bedroom for about 2 hours. During that time I listened to the song "Take a Bow"a bout 5 times and sang along. Hehe! Then I watched Ringo on Larry King and laughed my butt off.

H just left. Mumbled something which I asked him to repeat and he just closed the door and left. 9 days Sara...almost 8....

What a fool, being offended about being in the house that is ALMOST yours. What the heck? Was he taking a nap? Fool.

You can do this!

He could have been taking a nap. Who knows?! Why isn't he over at OW's? That is were he always wanted to be when I was working on the marriage.

I am really scared that he isn't getting it with the divorce. That after July 16, he can't come in the house anymore. He has to get his things out. The recliner has to go or it becomes mine. I really don't think he gets it. He is so deep into his fogland that he just thinks that he can keep on cake eating until he finds an apartment he likes. What he needs to be doing is finding a storage unit to rent and seeing the Salvation Army shelter in town has any openings.