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was a good night, we laughed, chatted a little, caught W looking over my way several times, and looking me in the eyes.. baby steps

Sounds like a fun evening. Definitely lots of baby steps!

day by day... this morning we both got up at the same time.. chatted a little bit, W got angry over the smallest thing..

now i goto work.. i did do a 180 on something i never do, W came home to see me ironing shirts... she was a bit surprised

What did she get angry over?

Good job on the 180!

she got angry because i mixed 2 bottles of vitamins(that i didn't even know she was using) together...

a quote from her cousin's email:

T really doesn't say too much, she mentioned that the papers were served and wondered why you left(she thought you were mad or something like that). i told her that you had mentioned to me that you were probably going to see Jon that night anyways. She does notice the changes in you, but that is about all that is said.

Hmmm.. well off for lunch..

Ah, well I can see how she got annoyed over that. An innocent mistake on your part of course. But *shrugs*

Of course she notices. She just doesn't believe yet.

my copy of DR just got in.. yay..

I think i am following it to a tee allready.

another email from a good friend of mine..

me:"Tonight I am busy as well.. tomorrow I have workout (with trainer) and then yoga.. Friday is stampede , Saturday maybe ? (I am getting my tattoo at 4PM downtown).. maybe something to eat downtown Saturday? (Sunday I fly to Portland, and come back Tuesday evening)..

I mentioned to T's cousin, funny how me and T get along.. she replied.. “ Yes you guys get along so well it’s like nothing happened..”

Friend"except some thing major did happen and it is kinda sad you both act like nothing happened.
let's try and touch base on Saturday, just give me a call okay?"

ME:Why is it kind of sad that I/we act like nothing happened.. what am I supposed to do?

Friend"I don't know what you should do, I just think it is sad that is all
she still cares and so do you which makes it even more of a shame, but
there just seems to be too much water under the bridge. "

I have no reply to that

another thing the cousin mentioned, but i am not analyzing (Jeff)..

She just notices your doing stuff for yourself and that you following through with what you said.
Yesterday when i was wearing the cape you had on for your cute, i was cold, so T stuck the blow dryer under the cape to warm me up. when she did that the smell of your cologne came out and she said wow that smells like D

(i got my haircut yesterday , and my beard trimmed)

I am glad DR is there. Read it, then reread, then reread sections again. It takes a while to sink in sometimes. And sometimes each rereading brings deeper meanings and you think of new ways to apply it.

Lol, I probably should take my own advice.

You guys are having a lot of good interactions. I am sure that is making her think twice. Just be patient while she works through all of this.

Now you know for sure that she notices the changes in you. That's excellent. Not only does she notice, but she noticed enough to comment to her cousin.

I'd be careful about the cousin thing. Anything you say may get straight back to her even if she says she won't tell. Blood is thicker.

Read DR. I'm glad you got it. I agree with rereading it as well. I still pick it up, and get something new from it.

Keep up the good work.

What kind of tattoo are you getting. What does your wife think about it?