While I agree it is a family weekend and the kids have to be considered....would you also agree that part of the reason you two grew apart is focusing so much on the kids and neglecting each other?
Okay, just food for thought.
For this weekend, your plans sound pretty good. Hopefully she'll join you for at least one activity!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
would you also agree that part of the reason you two grew apart is focusing so much on the kids and neglecting each other?
A very valid point. What's weird is that I think that they might also be the key if we are to come back together. Any suggestions that I have made for just the two of us have been quickly rejected. So the right family activities might be useful.
Just as a check though...you are planning this from your perspective, are those things she also TRULY enjoys? Or can you think of another option that would be something TOTALLY about her?
I was thinking more from the kids perspective, actually.
And immediately thought this before even reading it:
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
While I agree it is a family weekend and the kids have to be considered....would you also agree that part of the reason you two grew apart is focusing so much on the kids and neglecting each other?
When I'm thinking of family things to do with H and the kids, and even when I'm out shopping for H's b-day/Father's Day/Christmas gifts, I won't ask the kids what they want to do or what they want to get him. I will ask, "What do you guys think Dad would like to do?" or "What do you think Dad would like for his gift?" I make it all about Dad, and I believe it also shows the boys how to consider what others would like so they're not just thinking of themselves. Mom and Dad do a lot for them, so let's show Mom and Dad our appreciation by thinking of them for a change.
That's just my perspective.
Perhaps it's something you could try when talking to the boys this evening or tomorrow. Ask them what they think Mom would like to do. Gather a few ideas and let them know she gets to pick the one she likes best. It's going to be fun for everyone!
(((((Jeff)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Hmmm, I think that is another symptom of being burned out on you, seriously. She sees most of what she does with you and the family as NOT stuff she enjoys, the quilting is HER thing and she is craving that space and independence maybe?
But you don't know if you don't try. So, ask about this weekend!
And I guess you know what you can get her for presents....quilting stuff! Lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
