I think we all hope there will be this one magical moement where our spouses just say "wow this is silly, lets get back together". I know I felt this a lot.
I wouldn't believe that he doesn't think about you. He may not let you know that he does, but I would find it hard to believe that he doesn't
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I suppose all I can do is show him that time spent with me isn't negative and to try and have fun even though we are doing really negative things like selling our house and eventually divorce.
Exellent game plan, show him that it is fun to be around you!
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Oh and the thought of your office makes me chuckle! lol! I suppose it must brighten things up :-)
You should have seen the look on everyone's face when I walked in with a Zebra under one arm and a Giraffe under the other. I'm sitll debating on bringing the lion, tiger and bear in though
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Oh you so should bring them in TD! Why not, they will make you smile and remind you of your gorgeous kids. There, they have made me smile now so already they have done a job!
I think maybe he does think about me and in the past it has all been negative and forcing himself to disconnect from me. I actively saw and felt him doing that over the months. But I was also giving him reason to do that by forcing him to see me and 'enjoy' spending time with me. Hopefully by not doing that it will have the opposite effect.
I don't think that your thoughts of him throwing his arms around you and making things better is Dumb. it is natural, and to be expected. I am sorry that this meeting was so hard but I am glad that you can see that you did succeed in your goals.
I know that it is really hard to believe right now but this is not easy for him either. he is very self absorbed and throwing himself into work and other things to get by and make it seem that he has no feelings or thoughts for you. telling you that he does not think about you is him trying to convince himself of that.
I am glad that you still have residual feelings for him and hate to have a failed marriage. that is what will keep you here and fighting for him and your marriage. you are doing very well here. I am sure you will make the most of the selling the house experience. make it fun and friendly, it may not produce instant results but keep up this 180. he has already noticed it and will continue to do so. plus I can't tell you how much better i feel settled into my new place. a fresh start, no bad memories, easier to focus on me and DBing.
I know that this meeting was very hard, but i think you did great! keep up the good work. try to think about the positives and not dwell on parts of the meeting you did not like as you wait or him to make the next move.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
I think you have a really good point about the throwing himself into work thing. I hadn't looked at it that way before, I had just taken it personally. Also what you said about you settling into your new place has reassured me.
I'm feeling really sad tonight. I can't seem to shake it. I am scared because I feel like our m is hanging on by a thin thread and I think I'm really hurt and I don't know why.
For the first time in ages I really miss my h, properly from the heart miss him. I feel lost.
Yay, I love ice cream. You have really cool flavours over there too. In fact my favourite, B & J's cinnamon buns! I even wrote to unilever to get them to distribute it here but they refused.
Ah, Jeff your kindness just made me cry. Thank you
Hey ((((Julia))))!!! Hold on darling, I swear it will go away. It hurts and of course you miss him and of course it hurts more... You are scared, it's natural but trust me, it will pass.
Think of things you can control, don't consider your marriage lost, be positive... Nothing is over yet unless you want it to be. Love K
