Mike - Don't think your weird, I honestly believe that probably 90% (+) of people really haven't a clue how they ended up where they are and haven't lived the live exactly as they planned in their later teens etc.
I think most of us also have those similar things we want to do in life and would of rather of done them when young, but the reality is, we may do some of them, but more likely we do them as we get older, the kids have flown etc.
Can you be my GAL planner? You get out and DO stuff, right and left!
Neat!
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*hugs*
I've got two choices, stay there in that chaos or remove myself from it. I remove myself and try not to lose the time with D. Sometimes I can acomplish what I'm after, sometimes I can't.
To be honest, I don't think I'm very good at DB'ing.
Maybe it's because I've been trying to DB.
Maybe if I don't try so hard and "just let it happen" then things may get easier.
being the kind of person I am this would be mush easier if there were "step by step" instructions. I function better that way. Since there are no instructions and I feel I have to fly by the seat of my pants then it makes it very difficult for me to stay on track.
I had a good buddy tell me last night that this was just like him and I standing in the surf on the OBX fishing. He told me to "stop trying to figure out what bait to use" and just do what I already knew to do.
Thing is..I don't know if I know what to do anymore.
I don't know what it will take for me to be happy. I don't know if I have ever been happy. Happy like people describe. Happy..just joyful happy, genuine happy. Be in a place where you just walk around with a smile on your face all the time.
There are things I wanted to accomplish and do that I don't think are gonna happen. I wanted to have my kids early in life, retire early, travel. I never did anything after high school because I chose to get married and start a family. I missed out on lots of things.
I gave up lots to make other people happy and probably lost my happiness in the process.
it's probably time for me to try to find "the happy" but to be honest I don't know how or where to find it.
I've always wondered if I'm normal?
So there it is..once again. Buck naked...damn I hate buck naked.
Kathleen, I'm sorry I turned this response into this type post. Deep converstions last night+about 4 hrs. sleep does this to me.
GAL--I'm at the point I don't have a choice. If I sit there with her in her misery then..I just don't know.
I have got to get out. I have to get away. I hate it when I can't stop typing.
F it..it's Friday.
You are just like the rest of us. We thought so much about the other people in our lives we lost ourselves along the way. We forgot what makes us happy. And we forgot how to love our wives.
You will find your happyness. You are well on you way. Keep doing things with your friends and D. Avoid your wife when she is on a rampage and it will all work out.
Fish are buck naked, so are elephants. It doesn't seem to bother them.
Putting yourself out there helps the flow, the emotional flow. Now you don't have to fret about it anymore. It's out there.. unless you decide to trade birthday suit honesty for Hoover vacuums.. then you have to start all over again.
Typing like crazy is good, getting it out is good. Getting out and doing stuff even better.
To be honest, I don't think I'm very good at DB'ing.
Maybe it's because I've been trying to DB.
Maybe if I don't try so hard and "just let it happen" then things may get easier.
being the kind of person I am this would be mush easier if there were "step by step" instructions. I function better that way. Since there are no instructions and I feel I have to fly by the seat of my pants then it makes it very difficult for me to stay on track.
Mike, not for nothing but there are a couple of things that worked well for me.
The first being, I always, and I do mean always, kept a bottle of water with me. Whenever my W would be speaking to me and it was something that irked me or didnt sit right, I would take a very long deliberate drink of my water bottle. This enabled me a little time to process my responses rather than simply firing back off the cuff. It is so much easier to DB when you have a moment or two to gather your responses.
The second thing I reccomend is a dry erase board. Write down what is working for you and what isn't in seperate columns. Read them each night before bed. You would be amazed how much you remember when you sleep on these thoughts.
One last thing and I will go.
Stop being such a dork..........
When people compliment you on how you are doing, take the fricken compliment. It kills me that you won't even accept that just maybe people see improvement in you. You are so quick to acknowledge when you are a dumbass, but it's like pulling teeth for you to be proud of some of your actions. PMA buddy........It's good for the soul.
When people compliment you on how you are doing, take the fricken compliment. It kills me that you won't even accept that just maybe people see improvement in you. You are so quick to acknowledge when you are a dumbass, but it's like pulling teeth for you to be proud of some of your actions. PMA buddy........It's good for the soul.
Ok, I laughed when I read this because it's funny and because it's the truth.
I'll do it Ian..I'll stop being a dork.
Anybody know where I can find bottles of water pretty cheap?? I think I'll need lots. LOL
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 06/27/0806:09 PM.
Can you be my GAL planner? You get out and DO stuff, right and left!
Neat!
If you're looking for man toys, consider this.. the Philips Home Theater SoundBar System. Imagine, Home Theater, DVD player, sub woofer and iPod dock all in one slim package.
Can you be my GAL planner? You get out and DO stuff, right and left!
Neat!
If you're looking for man toys, consider this.. the Philips Home Theater SoundBar System. Imagine, Home Theater, DVD player, sub woofer and iPod dock all in one slim package.
