Hi Red....some of your stuff sounds like mine. Probably only minus the EA's before marriage.
Do you want to get back with him?
I did purple, but I'm not so sure now. It is funny, I was driving this afternoon (after seeing the movie "Sex and the City) and I started to get really POed at H. So I screwed up and I was a cold heartless B. But he did promise to love me, forgive me, forsake all others, etc., said all the for better or worse stuff. I guess he has decided that I'm not worth the worse part. So it is time to move on and find someone who knows I'm worth it. The good thing is I know I will eventually be much happier. It just sucks that it takes so long to get there.
Last edited by redhottie; 06/29/0810:28 PM.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Don't worry Woog, I have stopped beating myself up. I realize that this isn't about me. I know I am a good person and I know I deserve better. I guess my point was that I am done trying to "win" H back. It is at the point where he will have to win me back if our M is to continue.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Don't worry Woog, I have stopped beating myself up. I realize that this isn't about me. I know I am a good person and I know I deserve better. I guess my point was that I am done trying to "win" H back. It is at the point where he will have to win me back if our M is to continue.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Yesterday was a pretty uneventful day. I left shortly after H got to the house. Did some errands that I was glad I didn't have the Ds for. One took much longer than expected and I'm sure they would not have been in a good mood. Stopped by the house for a little bit while I knew they would be gone. Treated myself to a movie. I was going to do some other things but I got caught in the rain leaving the theater. I had to go home because I was soaking wet. H wasn't there when I walked in...too bad, because I looked pretty good in my wet t-shirt and soaked hair. I said hi to the Ds and told them I would be upstairs. H got back shortly with pizza and sent D up to tell me I could join them for dinner. I said no thanks, and he came up to tell me I could come down. I let him know that the only reason I was there was because I got caught in the rain. He then sent up some pizza for me with D. I stayed up there doing some work I needed to do until H left.
H called this morning to check on the time of Ds soccer match tonight. He is taking her because I'm having a fun dinner with friends. I made sure to keep the call short and all business.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
he needs to get out of your house. I know you hope he will come around but I don't think this situation is going to help and it seems it is prolonging a weird status. He is not going to be missing "the home" you two had if he still comes in and plays house with your Ds with or without you.
I agree with Sunshine. Kick his ass out. Take his key. Tell him he has free access to the girls, but not to the house. He gave that up. You need to be firm. You'll feel better soon.
By the way, someone pick up Jeff's tongue before it gets stepped on. And if anyone sees his mind in the gutter pick that up too.
