Thanks for visiting! I'll try to answer the questions!
Ali, W is a Aries (April 17) and I'm Sagittarius (Dec. 7).
T, I did not expect her to rearrange her schedule for the concert! But, they wouldn't rescedule the concert, either! I was surprised she even mentioned the posibility. Especially since she'd already gotten out of work Sunday, after going to the hospital with S13 Saturday night. (She was in contact with them form the beginning, so I don't think it was a black mark, at all.) The day I had the biopsy, she didn't work. If I remember right, that's when her brother was here, and the whole gang went to the pool!
I've kind of come to the conclusion that WAS's interpret the actions of those around them however they have to to justify their feelings. I guess in a way, we all do that. The thing is, that since they have "decided" that we are the problem, it's hard for them to see our actions any other way. I'd like to think that "we" might not be so harsh in our interpretations. We are trying to be the optimists, to see the silver lining, to look for the baby steps. But after a while, it gets hard!
We'll come up with a good plan for the 4th. Maybe letting her plan it is the right way to go?
I think asking for her input first is a GREAT idea! Let's her know her feelings and thoughts on what she'd like to do for the 4th are important and valued, too.
(((((Jeff)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I think she might totally appreciate that (even though she may not voice it)! I know I would!