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Just got off phone with W and want to call her some names. Texted her a lil after 10 to see if kids were in bed. Said yes, so I said well its late for me too and what about steamer and when you want to go through all the junk? W texts, u wanna call real quick? Stupid me I did

Im thinking, cool W will be in good mood. Didnt take long for W to start talking about settling things and when I would make my offers, I can hear uggh and that damn pissy tone comes out. WTF? W says I really thought after yesterday we where going to be able to get along (heard this about 3 times, and did answer with yes we are and at end said maybe Im just taking you wrong). You were just being nice cause you thought you could get lower child support this and that. Found out what it all would cost me, and is crazy! W mad about not being able to have any money until Nov to buy washer and dryer this and that. It was like she wanted w and d but Saturday said if I buy her out of house could keep everything in it.

Then W thinks there is just one loan on the house. Asked if I had refied it, I said um, your name is on title too, I cant do that. What a shame, knew I should have had S with her. Up and down on her moods on the phone. I said see, this is why I like talking in person cause things tend to go better. I tried many of times to get off phone, but she thought I was getting mad and thats why, but I couldnt. Finally towards the end, W asks when I would like to get together and talk about things. She mentioned she might have a coupon and we could go out to eat like Sat. And says hope you have good day at work this and that.

Bout tired of this BS. I got frustrated, didnt show it but would calmly tell W, well ok this is what we will do then, gets fired up. Sometimes when talking to W, gives me validation why I ought to just walk away.

W also said I thought we had a good day yesterday. I said yes we did, we didnt talk about what we are now, just basically hung out and got the things you wanted moved to your place. Thought I did pretty good on that one. What an expensive mind game among other things!

it sure sounds like it but.stop reading so much into it!

To give you an example,My W asked me today if i had a new friend? I told her no,She said not even looking?I said it wouldnt be fair to a woman to put her in the middle of this!

She said,Thats very interasting to here you say that.

So,I think im being tested to.but we rally dont know,do we!-Mike

Just urkes me how W thinks we can be friends but yet W is telling me what she wants with the kids (mainly the support from the table) and how much this and that. "Im really trying to work with you" BS every time I say what I feel, like it has always been I feel I get reamed for what I said. I told W this is how we negotiate, I state what I feel and then thats a starting point.

There is no middle ground every with W. Well not every time but very little. Guess just detach some more like I have been told.

Hi jandn

I believe this is the first time I have posted to you. I have caught some of your posts and I also noticed the extreme closeness in the timeline that is displayed in your sig in comparison to my own timeline. We have many of the same things going on with our W's. And based on some of your comments, it seems your W's views are pretty close to those of my W. The starting down the D path and then freezing and reconsidering for a short spell is something that I experienced also. Your comment about your W realizing how much $ she had put towards the D and not wanting to appear to be waffling about it in the eyes of her family and friends really resonated with my own sitch.

Just thought I would point out some of those items and I would be interested to see what you thought. I don't know if you have ever taken a peak at my thread. Stop by any time. It would probably make it easier for you to analyze some of these things that I was pointing out as similarities if I were to get all of my previous threads tied together in a bundled fashion for you and others to examine. Peace be with you.

I looked over it a little bit, but yes I will go back and check your stuff out.

Had a dream lastnight about all of this. W's brother was in it, my S, the W and me. Was dragging S on his little play couch or something, all of us being silly taking turns or what not. Well I know I am not liked by BIL but he was pretty cool and agreed when W said, "well how are we going to pay for the house and my apartment since I have a lease on it" I said we can rent the house out and we all live in the apt. BIL agreed. Thats all I remember. Had a dream about teeing off and losing a club somehow also.

Anyways, kinda late leaving for work cause of stupid computer.

Thinking about calling C to try to make appt 4 Thurs and see what she thinks. Guess that was breakup sex and is really messing with me like being teased not ever knowing if there will be another time or chance. And how it was prob closure for W. Has always felt we run back 2 each other no matter what (fatal attraction?) but isnt going to happen this time.

Was thinking that i got off early tomorrow that maybe i could meet up with W for lunch, like a suprise. Have that support group tonight so that will help.

Was thinking that i got off early tomorrow that maybe i could meet up with W for lunch, like a suprise. Have that support group tonight so that will help. and have the kids.

NEED HELP, READY 4 2X4s. Yesterday I sent W email would call after kids go to bed. and after the comments u made 2 check out this site. was the 30daysex challenge. so last nite no mention of it during phone call. Get text while ago from W. IT SAYS*i checked out that website lastnite. thats nuts! so im suppose to go without it or not? let me know when u want 2 get together this wknd!* get 2gether and talk i guess. what have i set myself up 4 this time. gets me thinkinG of W with other ppl unless this is an oppurntunity 4 me. dont know how i should answer, like im still M and im sure not go n 2 b with anyone other than my wife.

I messed up, text said *im suppose to go without or do it?*