They had a blast. The got to do lots of outdoorsy stuff. They saw a bear, swan in a lake with an otter. Played ball with two golden retrievers. Had fun with their younger cousin. And who knows what else! The little ones have already gone to bed, they both have birthday parties to go to tomorrow!
Hnadcuffs and leg-irons might be a way to get me to do something..... not sure about your W though
Interesting...
Originally Posted By: One Day
I'll have a think about the approaching your W plan. My first thought is that if she responds negatively (ie doesn't want to work on it), you don't lose anything. But if she says she does want to work things out, waiting 3 months before another conversation, whilst carrying on with what you're doing might not be the best- if she says yes, she might expect some immediate action of some kind.
If she expects immediate action, I'm up for that! My intention is to try not to pressure her. For the near term if she says she sees wanting to work on it, at some point, it is enough for me. I would be willing to wait for her to actually do the working. Does that make any more sense?
Originally Posted By: One Day
I'll keep thinking though- on the one hand it's nice to put myself in your W's shoes. On the other she seems so unhappy it freaks me out to think what must be in her head!
Hi Jeff, Are I was confused, becuase she shouted at yu and the kids a while back saying, if she had a full-time job (?) or the means to support herself, she would leave? And you were mad at her for that. So, sounds like she is already working hard!
I agree with the others that it is a good idea to confront her and also, to expect her to respond negatively, which is a shame. I'm sorry I cant be more help today, but everyone is giving such great advice. My that was a big hug yuo gave Lisa! Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Just got back from getting shots for the pets, given under a tree at the local farmers' market. Lets just say a little mequite tree isn't big enough to give enough shade for over an hour at 104 (40) degrees! And now in a fit of startling intelligence, I am going to go try to play golf!
back at you bud
