Those dates will fade with time. I woke up this year and remembered my anniversary three days after it happened. I shrugged it off and pushed on. These days do fade with time. 31 years is a big investment, and I get that. This is your life now. A new reality. Hang in there. I replied to you on my thread, but what was wrong with your lazy as& husband volunteering to drag a vacuum around the house or use Soft Scrub on the toilet bowls? ;o)
Current significant event is Father's Day. Happy Father's Day to everyone who is a father!
Not sure if D17's dad is in town or not. She gave him his gift early just in case. She borrowed money from me to buy the gifts!!! It was very interesting because when she asked him what he wanted he couldn't think of anything. Then his gf (guess I can't call her ow since we're divorced now) suggested a movie. D17 told me, "I don't want to buy it for HER." She ended up buying 2 gifts: 1 idea I suggested, 1 idea from the gf. I loaned the money on the condition that I could borrow the movie and book.
So, now I'm going to send her dad an email asking which days this next week he wants D17 to come over and spend the night. I know you guys said I should let THEM work it out, but it will never happen if I don't nudge a bit!!!
I replied to you on my thread, but what was wrong with your lazy as& husband volunteering to drag a vacuum around the house or use Soft Scrub on the toilet bowls? ;o)
Thanks, FLTC. When D17 was little and she saw me vacumn she would ask, "is Daddy coming home?" The vacumning and bathrooms weren't the issue.... I just have stacks of papers and stuff that seemed to congregate on the kitchen table (and counter and any available flat space . That drove him crazy! The garage and office (H's domain) were always immaculate! D17 reports that gf's house is "perfect". She doesn't really like to stay there because she is afraid to touch anything! The 2 extremes! Most of exH's stuff is still here....probably because she doesn't want extra stuff in her house. The issue to me was that I would choose to make cookies or visit someone in the hospital over cleaning the house--i.e. my heart was more important to me than having a spotless house. Obviously exH and his gf don't have the same heart!
So I sent exH an email asking which nights next week he wanted D17 to stay over. I said, "you asked for 3 weeks during the summer according to our settlement. You have 20 days to go". He left a voice mail: "I don't understand the 3 weeks thing".
Is he that bad at math? Three weeks = 21 days he used 1 day, SO that leaves 20 days. Maybe if you write it down like that he'll be able to understand what you are saying.
Hope things are going well with YOU.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
His job/schedule is such that it is difficult to have 3 weeks in a row since he travels out of town, although I am sure that was the intent of his lawyer. However, the part that frustrates me is he doesn't see any reason to have D17 spend the night unless I have a reason (like when I went out of town for my mom's surgery). Why doesn't he see that D17 enjoys being with him for more than a movie and dinner????? Both D17 and I have told him. Guess he only hears what he wants to hear!
. That drove him crazy! The garage and office (H's domain) were always immaculate! D17 reports that gf's house is "perfect". She doesn't really like to stay there because she is afraid to touch anything! The 2 extremes! Most of exH's stuff is still here....probably because she doesn't want extra stuff in her house. The issue to me was that I would choose to make cookies or visit someone in the hospital over cleaning the house--i.e. my heart was more important to me than having a spotless house.