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thanks you guys



i feel so safe here!

Just don't tell anyone where we're at.

for some reason i have alot of sadness today.
lonely- i want to call him or reach out after our talk...i feel anxious and panicked.

i wiahs he would get a hold of his depression and see how its ruining him...
maybe he feels this pain too- im sure he does but im scared iot will make him retreat more...

i met w a single friend today and it scared me bc i DO NOT want to go into the singles world.

i feel down and lonely- isnt that a song?

then i pick up my chin and grin and say- the sun will come out tomorrow!

annie :-)

That is why it is called a roller coaster. Were you 'hoping' he would call again so soon? Expectations unmet lead to the way you are feeling today.

What are you doing this weekend? Tell us your plans.

i wasn't expecting him to call-
maybe i was expecting him to call and cry and say he wants me back!
but just recalling the words he said about the D initially in our talk and then at the end when he said i don't want to give you false hope-
its so sad.. he is so lost and i just want to reach out and grab him ( i did whap his butt as a joke during our talk)...
there were a lot of god times too and he seemed to really hear and acknowledge what i said...he is looking for answers yet this whole time i doubt if he reached out to anyone.

my plans:
pedicure/manicure/ yoga tonight

party tomorrow for friend (vet school)!

Saturday night- hang out maybe w fam

sunday no plans- maybe hang w mom- shop....


thanks jack- i am letting my fears get to me...ill try to stay on the upswing.

Stay away from the phone and empty 'lonely' moments. Stay dark. Let him contact you, got it?

yes- got it. i will not contact him..i promise.

i will stay away from loniless- i will "change the channel" if things get cooky for me.

yes sir!

I worked for a livng, no 'sirs'

ok!
i liked that you gave me clear instructions!

it just dawned on me that of course my H's first comment about our R was to get an L or a mediator....since i haven't brought up the R at all each time we talk it haw left that part up to him.

even though i am have been through hell and back these last months i haven't told him any of my pain so he has no idea really what i am thinking.

so he possibly could have been thinking that i was going to say i wanted a D or at the very least it was his security blanket to see how i would react.

i handled it perfectly- i think. no crying, calm and collected and listened and acknowledged him

now my only other question is why would he say "i don want to give you false hope and have you think that things will be ok"...
is that another way for him to be in control?