Hmmmm, chili would be good, but to me it's a cold weather dish....
If she wouldn't expect you to cook, how about something like fajitas? Pretty easy, and yet a bit exotic! And something for dessert, perhaps a key lime pie? Again, really easy, and yet different!
You are doing the right thing (listen to Jeff...he has loads of great advice). The walk is a fine idea, but remember to let her talk about herself. NO RELATIONSHIP TALK!! She needs to feel free to make a decision and there should be no relationship talk unless she brings it up. Trust me, I know alot about this (Right Jeff???)
Just let the conversation flow and don't try to go against the flow. I believe that humans tend to be impatient, and when we think we see something going well, we want to skip several steps, hurtle over the tall building, and act like Super man...woman and the human heart doesn't work that way. Right now, she is probably thinking you will do anything to get her back, and once she agrees, the old will occur. You have to show her that you are a NEW you, and willing to make good solid changes that will last a lifetime.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hmmmm, chili would be good, but to me it's a cold weather dish....
If she wouldn't expect you to cook, how about something like fajitas? Pretty easy, and yet a bit exotic! And something for dessert, perhaps a key lime pie? Again, really easy, and yet different!
She cooks chili all the time.. i will try fajitas.. thanks..
and a pie... yikes!!!! i always have the new to figure that one out eh..
Key lime pie is easy, if you can separate eggs! Fajitas are a snap, too. Get the seasoning in an envelope, and it's all a matter of chopping up some veggies, or you can cheat and get the peppers frozen, already cut up, and only cut up the onion. Don't forget sour cream, salsa, and cheese!
You are doing the right thing (listen to Jeff...he has loads of great advice). The walk is a fine idea, but remember to let her talk about herself. NO RELATIONSHIP TALK!! She needs to feel free to make a decision and there should be no relationship talk unless she brings it up. Trust me, I know alot about this (Right Jeff???)
Just let the conversation flow and don't try to go against the flow. I believe that humans tend to be impatient, and when we think we see something going well, we want to skip several steps, hurtle over the tall building, and act like Super man...woman and the human heart doesn't work that way. Right now, she is probably thinking you will do anything to get her back, and once she agrees, the old will occur. You have to show her that you are a NEW you, and willing to make good solid changes that will last a lifetime.
I let her talk the other day, it started off as how was your day, and flowed from there. She has allready changed back to her maiden name. does that matter?
There has been no relationship talk.. only when she brings up "see that's one of the thing's you did"..and i just agree..
she likely does think i will do anything to get her back and the old me will be back. in fact she said before if i don't have any consequence, i'll never change. Man i have changed so much, i am working so hard on "me"
What happens after we have a nice time/nice walk? I thanked her the other night for the walk, she thanked me back and i think i heard" it was nice" .. but i can't be 100% sure..
do i just goto bed and pretend like nothing happened?
Yes, because in all actuality something did happen. Look at it this way...you had a nice walk with your W with lovely conversation and you didn't fight.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Yes, because in all actuality something did happen. Look at it this way...you had a nice walk with your W with lovely conversation and you didn't fight.
nope we actually laughed, but it is really hard to actually try to believe she will change her mind.. and we both enjoyed the walk..
