I just went through a whole battery of tests last fall, wondering the whole time if it was C. I have a family history of cervical cancer.
IF they thought it was cancer, they would have D in there tomorrow for the biopsy.
Now is when you need the serenity prayer, & hugs.
Thank-you SC. That is what I told W, that things like this are inconclusive sometimes, that we can't start jumping to conclusions when we have no answers to, we have to show a united front and keep from freaking out D17. W & I agreed to take a low key approach, basically say something to the affect of Dr. wants to run a test that they feel might answer why you are having pain sometimes during your monthly and leave it at that, no cause for alarm yet.
As any parent you don't want anything happening to your child(ren)...
When you are the source of emotional support.. things change.
*hugs*
In sitch's like this W has always looked to me to be the pillar, kind of a double edge sword, at times I am suppose to show emotion and other times I am suppose to be the rock to keep her strong. I told W we can't assume anything at this point until the test is run and results come back. W worries though cause she has had endomytriousis(sp) and is afraid it's all her fault.
Like SC said if they really thought it was the Big C they would have gotten her in ASAP, so that is what I have to draw from right now.
Hi there - on the B/D meal invite - IMO - you should ramp it up just a little - how would it play if you said "W, I'd really like it if you'd come along with D11 and me for my birthday meal"
Rather than just toss the invite out as a take it or leave it option...
Best - GFI
I think you have a good point, I agree with both you and Mike on this. All she can do is decline, no harm no foul.
Hi there - on the B/D meal invite - IMO - you should ramp it up just a little - how would it play if you said "W, I'd really like it if you'd come along with D11 and me for my birthday meal"
Rather than just toss the invite out as a take it or leave it option...
Best - GFI
Mike I think you and GFI are spot on with this, nothing ventured nothing gained. Given the sitch with D17 might be good for both of us if she would accept, but I won't push it, just like you did with your W ask and then leave it up to her I get ya!
Brian
Brian, I think this is a good idea. I think it will show her that you still care. She said that was important to her.
Don't beg her, but let her know that you would really like her to go. If she says no, then go have a good time with D's.
I've never posted to you before but wanted to mention that I too have had a pap smear come up with some problem. Of course I was scared.. I was 2 months pregnant with my D2 at the time and they had me wait until after I delivered her before I had a repeat Pap (which by the way came back clean). So I don't know if it was a bad test or what with my sitch but in the end it wasn't anything to be concerned about (although since I was made to wait so long I was worried for months).
Big hugs and prayers for your daughter and yourself.
In sitch's like this W has always looked to me to be the pillar, kind of a double edge sword, at times I am suppose to show emotion and other times I am suppose to be the rock to keep her strong.
Why not do it all the time?? If you could do this all the time, instead of just pressure sitchs or sitchs like this, then you would not be here.
You show her that you can handle the pressure right now.
Don't be to dark right now..a little gray is OK but be available. They ALL need you right now.
RF - I know the waiting and the uncertainty is tough. Make no assumptions about the results until you get them. As many have said, most of these turn out to be false alarms. <prayers>
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