I agree karen, but at this point ignorance is bliss. We are torn up because we know and understand what we are losing. They are oblivious, and while there may be guilt there is not that understanding. I keep thinking of the revolving door W is going to go through in her future R's unless she smartens up.
It is not conceit. You have grown. We all have. We need to hold onto that and build our future on it.
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She can see what she is leaving. She is going to miss you. But she still won't change course. Drives me nuts.
I think you're right, g, and it drives me nuts too. I think since she filed for D there has been only 1 time that we've gotten together and she hasn't broken into tears. I'd like to think that if I were that emotional about something I might question whether it was really such a good idea to throw it away without trying even just a little bit. But I don't know what she's focusing on and maybe the pain she's felt is too intense to chance revisiting. Although I keep coming back to the wrench the OM has been. That, along with her own strong need for independence, has seemed to derail all my efforts, or at least that's what I've heard her say.
Well - the weather is a bit chilly here but otherwise beautiful. I think I need to go have a long swim. Thanks everyone for your support. And puppy, no 2x4s? I even gave you the perfect opening! You aren't going soft on us are you?
