I agree. Sex is a very important connection. It was the way I got my H back. OW was no competition. And I've known of marriages where the sex had gotten boring, but during the separation they started doing some different things, like the woman wearing ultra sexy lingerie, and it spiced up the marriage, a lot. And in that case, it did take a long time. Over a year, I think. But he did come back. Guess OW didn't have that nightie with openings for the breasts!
red, I wouldn't initiate unless you're SURE your w would be open to it. And, I don't think your wife is ready yet. It could push her running the other way. Give her time, and plenty of it.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
red, I wouldn't initiate unless you're SURE your w would be open to it. And, I don't think your wife is ready yet. It could push her running the other way. Give her time, and plenty of it.
that's what i thought ... nice to see you here ladybug , i feared i was alone in my post below having a hard time not calling her today
Not calling is a good thing! She needs space, and since you're living together, she has no chance to miss you. DON'T CALL! You said yourself yesterday when you didn't call her that she's probably wondering.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
i need reminding.. if you see my post below(here goes)...i mentioned we spoke.. i texted here..ok NO MORE I promise! just needed re-assurance for some reason, am i the only one with crazy thoughts?
Not calling is a good thing! She needs space, and since you're living together, she has no chance to miss you. DON'T CALL! You said yourself yesterday when you didn't call her that she's probably wondering.
i would have loved to have initiated something last night, she was looking good and i caught her looking at me while we watched a movie.. maybe i am just a crazy guy, but she sat suggestively on the other couch.., i am going
I agree. Sex is a very important connection. It was the way I got my H back. OW was no competition. And I've known of marriages where the sex had gotten boring, but during the separation they started doing some different things, like the woman wearing ultra sexy lingerie, and it spiced up the marriage, a lot. And in that case, it did take a long time. Over a year, I think. But he did come back. Guess OW didn't have that nightie with openings for the breasts!
Thanks Sara this has revived my hope. I like the lingerie suggestion. I used to do this for my H a long time ago. I need to start again and get some new things.
This is a connection I am going to make sure stays strong.
Ughh my H acts like it would be cheating on the OW. Its funny, my sex drive is more active than it has been for a long time. He actually said to me "You look good, but no." Yeah, would be pretty lame of you to cheat on your girlfriend with your wife. But if he was willing, I would absolutely do it. Since hes not, I guess I just have to wait and see, since she lives far away, I have a little more hope.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
