Just cry. If you try to hold it in, it will only get worse. I wish I had a simple explanation for why this is happening, but I am still not convinced it really has to do with you. He is getting ready to be deployed, the psycho OW is coming back, and I think that these spouses tend to hurt the ones they love the most because they know, in the long run, that we will still love them. It is not fair. It is not right.
Don't worry about the papers. Have your cry, and throw something or punch the pillow. Get it all out, and then relax. You have your final tonight, and right now, that is the most important thing. Don't let him take that from you.
(((((((((((((((((((((((Michelle))))))))))))))))))))))))) Really huge hugs to you Honey. It will be okay.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
My heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry that he is such a heartless bast*$d!
SHUT OFF THE IM!!!!! TURN OFF YOUR PHONE!!!! Cut everything off that he could use to contact you and hurt you further. It's a blessing right now that he claims not to know where you live since he's so angry.
Breathe Michelle. We're here for you. Try to study. If you can't concentrate now, go take a warm bath and relax as soon as you can then go back to studying.
We all love you!!! You're an amazing woman Michelle. Don't let him make you forget that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I think the suggestion to go invisible on IM makes a lot of sense. You don't need any more of this today. I'm not likeing him a lot right now, I need to think a bit before I say anything else. Except it seems clear the problem isn't you. I'll write more later. Big, big, big, hugs, Michelle.
I am sorry. I am truly sorry this is happenning to you let alone the timing. He is being a big time jerk and you know it. He is insensitive ans selfish. Let him be, sign off from the IM and do't try to reason with him.
I am so very sorry you are dealing with this. I wish there was something I could do to help you, to make it all go away. LOVE Maria
How many hours till your test girlfriend? You realise he is not worth of you failing/missing your final, right? Actually I don't think he is worth of you either in any sense... I mean it.
I have to agree. Right now he is being a total self centered jerk. You deserve to be treated so much better.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You've done everything right and he's being so mean. I wish I could offer something more than to also tell you to allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.
*hugs* Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
I haven't even picked up the stupid papers let alone decided what to do with them.
I think paragraph 2 is probably the answer to your question. He's being mean to push you into picking them up and making a decision. Why he's in such a hurry I don't know - maybe he thinks it will make the pain stop. He's in for a surprise there.
(((Michelle)))
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I cannot figure out what is going on with him other than he sees this deployment as a clean break from everything - me, OW, mediocre grades in school, being broke, etc. He's running from his problems, and he wants a clean start. So he's trying to bully me into signing this summary dissolution so he can leave with no unfinished business???
On the other hand, he's pushing all the wrong buttons to do it. First, he pissed me off, which does NOT encourage me to make it easy on him. Second, he's right that I'm stubborn, but if he wants me to sign anything he took the exactly wrong approach to it - and he used to know that, so I can't figure out if he's really that fogged or if subconsciously he doesn't want me to sign things.
I have bruises on my face. I think I did it crying so hard!?! I didn't know that was possible.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
