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I have been reading your posts and although you registered 04/03/06 your posts start 08/03/07.

I don't know if there are any missing but the one's have been reading are very inspirational.

It gives me hope and you have such a positive attitude.

When you had blow ups with H, what were his responses?

What were the issues mostly about when you blew up? ( I know they are probably hard to remember but when I sometimes get so angry I don't say a word,I don't know if this is a good thing because I don't want things to creep up on me and explode)

Did you and H start any legal proceedings whatsoever?

We are at the financial stage of ours and I'm wondering if H has been hanging around lately because something is coming?

If not was there any mention and if so how far did you get?

This is such a surreal jouney and posters like yourself, have given back so much to the DB community and it gives BS someting to hang on to and help to aspire to.

Thanks YR,

E

H is picking us up for baseball as of right now....I will be so nervous when I get in the car but I have to breathe before I go...I don't want to talk about us at all......what if he brings up the D word.....

I too think I struck a nerve but I hope not in a bad way...he may realize that he really did do the right thing...I'm a bit**...I'm not really...but I was pretty psycho last night...LOL

Yes, YR....you have brought so much back.....I hope someday I can give back.....

Treese

E

I think the other threads or in MLC archives. Thank you for your kind words.

Issues with my H were his lack of contact with the kids, his smug attitude, just his MLC garbage. His reaction in the beginning was he didn't care. He was getting a D. Later on he would listen and then retreat for a few days and then I would see little changes in him.

No legal proceedings on either part but we both did contact a L.

Maybe your H is feeling regret. Maybe reality has finally hit him. Now he knows what he is loosing in all of this.

Hang in there

Y

Treese

Just don't say anything if he mentions D. I hope you have a good day and everything goes well. Let us know.

That's right, just breathe.

Y

well..I survived the baseball game...H picked us up on time and talked to me normally....I just talked upbeat...

Watched son play bball....he hit a homerun....woohoo...that's my boy...

He was so excited and he has been playing so awesome...then he wanted to go eat so we stopped at Bob Evans to eat and H took us through a little part of town that he said they were building up...why...I don't know...he just said, I'll take you by there so you can see what they've done...I just said okay...then when we got to the restaraunt he had to pick up a box of something at work which was around the corner so he dropped us off and went to get it and came back...hmmmm......didn't ask...

My D15 texted me and asked where I was and if I was with H...I said yes why....she said cause I told Dad he wasn't welcome at our house any longer....she is hurting so bad...She said she texted him that last night...which is probably what prompted the email I got this morning...

He dropped us off at home and told son he had to go because he had to get up early...whatever....I just said bye....

and that's it....I think I did well overall....no talk about us...no crying....just normal every day stuff...trying to detach...hard...but I'm trying...

he is probably feeling the effects of D's texts and not talking to him...

Treese

Treese, Sounds like you did really well today. And so did your H. Good work!
-PH

Great Job Treese!!! I knew you could do it.

I know detaching is hard but you will get there one step at a time!

Y

Hi YR,

I went back to my home town this past weekend for a church meeting. It was good to go home & see everyone & the spirit was really there. I did keep missing my H b/c last year at this time he was with me at church!

I haven't heard a word from him but I guess I didn't expect to.

I did get a phone call last week from my MIL, she didn't leave a message & I wasn't here, I just saw her # on caller ID. I didn't call her back & I don't plan too b/c she was so hateful to me at Xmas. But I wonder what she wanted. She would only call before to talk to my H so, maybe she has realized what he has done. But I'm sure he told her lies about me & she will believe everything he tells her so not sure about the phone call.

I keep praying for my H & did so much this weekend while I was in church. I'm trying really hard to just turn it over to God!

It's not easy. It is so nice to hear about how things happened with you & your H. I really appreciate you staying on this site & helping us all out.

(((HUGS)))

nlt

I am glad you had a good time. I know how hard it is to let God take over but I know you can do it.

It's strange that your MIL called you! Just let it go and if she wants to talk to you let her call again. Maybe she is sorry for what she did in December, who knows!

I will keep you and your H in my prayers.

Y

Hey YR;

Well.....no emails today...imagine that...LOL!!didn't expect it....H called son tonight...and son said he was watching me paint "your"....moms room...yep he stopped himself in the middle of YOUR....I didn't say anything...H didn't ask what color or anything..

My mom called also...she and MIL are best friends....this gets so complicated....MIL told my mom I will always be family but my H doesn't love me like I want him to....blah, blah, blah...she says I need to move on......Of course she will support her son....I feel like i've been replaced...she says I have to much time on my hands now that school is out....it wouldn't matter if I was working or home...I'm still going to think about it....she and I had a discussion a long time ago and we both were talking about how we wanted to die before our H's because they are such a big part of our lives.....and now she is telling me to move on....I wanted to say, let's see you do it...why do people think it's so easy to move on....it's 30 years for heaven's sake....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..........

Anyway....have to finish painting tomorrow...It was too late to finish it tonight...I have to sleep in the couch...brings back lots of bad memories.....