Jak and Matilda, It's interesting that you think my W allowing the teacher to guide me is a big step. Can you care to elaborate?
Our guest left this morning. Having a guest is stressful. You lose some of your privacy, and have to play host. I was irritable the last day, but managed to be on good behavior for the duration of the visit.
My W continues to be on good behavior these past several weeks. She is grateful for what I contribute, and has lost her temper with me only once that I can think of. I can't remember a similar stretch of time, where she's worked at managing thoughts and emotions.
My most recent poem is about desire on the dance floor, and how we create a "grass is greener" scenario in our minds, rather than enjoying and appreciating the connections we have. I consider my poems to be rough drafts, until I learn some poetry craft and revise them.
She continues with spearheading home improvement projects. The remainder of the hardwood floors are being refinished. She bought three state-of-the-art flat screen televisions--two for the bedrooms, and a 46" one for her entertainment room. She also had cable installed. I've tended to think cable TV was too much a luxury item, but don't dispute it, since she has the cooking job.
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CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
I asked the teacher to explain. My W kept interrupting, and I asked her to be quiet so I could hear the teacher. This infuriated her.
This is why I said what I said.
I am a bit surprised that your wife is wanting to continue all the remodeling projects while also wanting a trip to Hawaii. You are such a wise, patient man! Your wife is lucky!
Jak, Matilda, and Piecing Friends, My W made some interesting comments recently. After our guest left, my W made the comment that he seemed to be happy in spite of having so little material-wise. She had bought him a pair of shoes and some clothes items. She noted that she has so much more material-wise, but is not as happy.
She also made the comment that now that our guest is gone, she will go back to being depressed again.
She wants to have a dance party at our house this summer. She said that she has been too private with people. Her rule has been that I can never reveal anything about her, including marital status, job occupation or city of residence.
She's having doubts about whether or not I'll be a good travel companion for the Hawaii trip. She wonders if I'll manage the long flight. We'll see how it plays out.
I wrote another poem draft today. This one was about how dancing represents my struggles with inhibition, and being expressive in front of others. I enjoy being honest on the page, and am grateful to have found a genre to that fits for me. I enjoy reading poetry because of it's honesty.
I'm currently reading the collection, "Sweet Ruin" by Tony Hoagland.
CL
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
[/quote]Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener I asked the teacher to explain. My W kept interrupting, and I asked her to be quiet so I could hear the teacher. This infuriated her.
This is why I said what I said.
I am a bit surprised that your wife is wanting to continue all the remodeling projects while also wanting a trip to Hawaii. You are such a wise, patient man! Your wife is lucky![quote]
This is what I thought of and why I replyed the way I did also.
Have a good day Cl.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
She's having doubts about whether or not I'll be a good travel companion for the Hawaii trip. She wonders if I'll manage the long flight. We'll see how it plays out.
What do you mean by "we'll see..."????? Would YOU consider NOT going????? I would think the vacation would be a good place to reconnect without the day to day disturbances. I would certainly hope she would not plan that trip without you!
This concerns me!!!!!!!(although it's none of MY business )
Matilda, I would not consider not going (did I say that right?). The fact is she raised her concerns. Is she being straightforward or not? I don't know.
I would consider it a significant setback (or realization), if she went on this trip without me. I would also hope that she would not plan a trip without me, but it's ultimately beyond my control if she were to be committed to doing so.
I don't think so, and I probably shouldn't have posted yet on the issue.
Thanks for your concern.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Matilda, I would likely enjoy the party. I'm not sure if planning a party with my W would be enjoyable or not.
I would have to clarify whose party is it? Is it her party, our party or mine? This would determine the nature of the party and the guest list.
She had mentioned some time ago, that she wanted me to host a party. As I've mentioned, she has a privacy issue and we haven't been a close public couple, so I would want to be clear as to who's hosting the party.
She's taken down our wedding pictures, and pictures of my family.
She has recently mentioned that she needs to ease her privacy rules. Hosting a party would be a stretch for her, as people would know where she lives, and get to view details of her life.
I wold likely consent to having a party, unless she wanted it be my party, that she happens to be invited to.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
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