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OMG, YES! And it was my parents that recommended that I see it.

they told me that LL is losing the 80% and they feel that by the time he 'man's up'...he will only have the 20% waiting for him...he will lose the best part of his life.

Seems so true right now...bleh.

He is in his own little world and I am GAL...and getting closer to God and letting him go, little by little...wondering if he will ever come back...

However, I must confess, I wonder about his return less and less and am having a great time in the meanwhile!!! I have gotten very used to my freedom and not having to deal with his drama (or hardly any of it) and it very liberating.

Ok, I like that comment made in the movie, but does that 20% in time not turn into, once again 80% and therefore, the cycle begins all over....I think it's more like that....JMHO

Twin, I agree with what you say...I think the work does come from that last need in them...the things WE have to work at...that does not come naturally...the compromise, perhaps?

That book sounds interesting!

V

Dar, why would that upset you?

Because we work hard at that 80% and so do our spouses. But it's okay to throw it away for 20%??

It was a decent read. At the very least it hlped me look into myself a little more. I read it about 6 months ago when I should have read DR which I read about a month ago. For my sitch DR (and this board) have been much more valuable than the needs book, but I think if we can get past this S, then the needs book might be something to build upon possibly, though I think Michele has a couple of books that address the same subject.

Jack, I agree it is more than just a piece of ass too...it may begin as something else...the shoulder you mention, etc...

V

Javier cheating on me was a blessing in disguise.

It hurts yeah, but the more time passes the more I know he was not the one.

He was the one for me for 12 years. Not now.

He is no where near, the man I want to have a life with.

I loved him and will cherish the good times. He is the father of my children, and for that he will be respected by me.

I see what you mean...but some people do throw it away for the 20%...that is a sad fact.


And it's NOT okay to throw it away for the 20%...but it IS a damn shame...

OH Lissie, I find such courage and strength in what you say and at the same time it makes me so sad, to see a great love lost....

(((((hugs)))))))