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Thank you everyone for your support. I know this is the Divorce Busting site and none of us want to move forward toward divorce, but there comes a time when that is the only best thing to do. I think I am going to keep posting in this forum however. The affair is still the root of everything and I think I belong here.

The whole shirt thing is cracking me up as well. I know he is wearing them because I took all of his clothes and moved them out to the garage (too lazy to get his clothes)& he hasnt' done any laundry in 3 weeks and is running out of clothes. The shirts he is wearing are just Tshirts that a man or a woman would wear. I actually think the one he was wearing today I bought in the men's department. But still...he is wearnig my clothes! That is so strange!

The car (like the house) is in both of our names. But since I am the only responsible one, I am paying for it every month. We have always thought of this car as "his" car and I have rarely drove it. I dont want the dumb smelly thing (he smokes in there...puh!) I have my own car, which has been mine since 1995. It is totally in my name and has less milage on it than his 2004 car. The theory of him allowing OW to drive the car that I pay for 100% just gets under my skin.

What do you all think of this? I am going on a trip to Disney at the beginning of July. I will be gone for 10 days total. My Dad says that I should pack up my Precious Moments collection and anything else breakable, my computer and a few other things and store them at his house while I am gone. He is concerned that H and OW will come and break/steal my things.

Sara

HOnestly, as childish as your H has been acting, I would not put it past him. I cant hurt to protect your things, but it sure could if you didnt. Just think of it this way, one less thing to pack when you move on for good.

You know what boggles my mind?? Is where does the OP get off thinking they have so much right and own our Spouses???!! The OW in my Sitch also told me she wanted to come down here and kick my butt after I called her Mother to tell her what a skank her daughter was. And previous to that she told me she was going to
come down here so the 3 of us coudl sit and talk..yeah right!! Why don't I make her soem tea and freakin cookies while I'm at it?? The Nerve!!

I think you sound tremendously strong now Sara!! Keep it up!!
So happy your pastor was such a help to you..Your H is going to kick himself hard one day..

Sara, that's not a bad idea. Also might not be a bad idea to install some voice-activated recorders and motion-activated video cameras in the home, if you have any friends who can let you borrow something like that. Maybe you can get something on the guy, as dumb as he's acting.

Yeah I guess it isn't a crazy idea to move my stuff into my parent's house for the time I am gone. At least then I won't have to worry about it. But BH, I am not moving. He is the one that will move. He is going to be offered his half of the house in cash to move out and I am keeping the house. I really like this house and since I am the one who has paid for it 100% this whole time, affording it won't be an issue at all. However I do want to redecorate and paint to make the house look more like me and less like "us."

Why not start to redecorate and paint now? When my H was being an idiot alien, that's what I did. I got to pick all the colors I liked and transform my home into what I wanted. Since he was being a moron and speaking very little to me, he had to just eat it. I taught myself how to hang pictures, curtain rods, and do all sorts of other cool things.

It made me feel good to make my home my own, a total retreat just for me.

What will happen to the car if you D?

SD

That is what I plan to do, SD. I am going to redecorate soon. My mom is going to help me.

I will pay off the rest of his car and sign it over to him when we D. I don't want that car at all and I am sure that will be part of the settlement.

Sara

Hey Sara. Just checking in today. Redecorating the house sounds like an awesome plan.

I like Puppy's idea of voice activated recorders, but will 'getting something on him' make any difference in your situation? I just don't want you to hear something that affects you in a negative way. You've been through way too much as it is.

xo,

I agree with GFP. What about taking photos of everything before you leave, that way you have a record of what you had and the condition it was in. It would avoid hearing anything you dont want to hear. Just a thought.

Yeah I really don't like the idea of voice activated anything. I am done trying to get information and snooping around.

H just called and I missed his call, so I called him back and he said that he wants to talk to me after he gets his haircut and he will call me back. I asked what it was about and he just said that he would talk to me soon. Why does this make me nervous? I guess it is just the unknown. There is a million things he could want to talk to me about.

Sara