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I just kinda went "hmmm, that's nice" and kept walking.

At some point, he does need to talk to me about all of this. So, I'm trying not to make it a taboo topic. Although I still have never called her by name. Maybe I just need to get him drunk again and ask him about her.....it worked last September......

Gosh, Michelle! You're amazing- cool as a cucumber! I don't think I'd have been able to keep it together like that. I'd have bristled at least!

I don't think you should use her name. It's a bad name anyway!

xx

Lol. Well, I would certainly HATE to associate her with a sweet person such as yourself. So normally, with H, I just settle for "Her" lol. Cuz I can't call her SBW or TAP, he's probably get defensive. And OW or mistress probably would just make him feel guilty, which would come out as angry/defensive. So....."Her" it is lol.

I try and keep my bristling internal. It doesn't really help anything. It's hard sometimes, but I think necessary.

How are your teeth?

Confused you huh? I bite the air when I get frustrated and you can see from the outside that my jaws are moving and you can hear my teeth... I think I may have cracked some of them lately. Also, I have no nails anymore... (no more manicure money)

LOL! On the rare occassion I've had to refer to the aubergine, I've tried to squeeze out a 'girlfriend' but only managed to get as far as 'your gir', and then had to switch to her ~#'~/~ name 'your gir Sally' which sounds somewhat like 'your grrrrrr silly' through clenched teeth! 'Her' is a good alternative. I'm going to try it!

LMAO. Ya know, there were a couple months there where I was grinding my teeth in my sleep. But I have been doing a lot better the last six months. Although nights like that leave me wishing I wasn't trying not to bite my nails! I have to sit on my hands sometimes or put them in my pockets.

I did get quite a headache though yesterday. Residual stress from Saturday plus stress at work...by the time I got home it was turning painful. And there was no one to rub my neck/shoulders *sigh* Those are the times I really miss my H lol.

YOu know there are those -jeff, close your eyes- multi task vibrating machines that are great for shoulder massages. They sell them at the airport and I want to get one but people will think I want it for the other use (which of course I would never)...

Well, by definition she's not his GF. M men don't have GFs after all. Plus, they're theoretically broken up...so in my case it doubly doesn't work.

He doesn't like "Her" though...although it's obviously better than the other alternatives I listed. I think he'd be least defensive over her name, but I just can't do it.