Divorcebusting.com  |  Contact      
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 8 of 15 1 2 6 7 8 9 10 14 15
Jack_Three_Beans #1466188 06/02/08 07:43 PM
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
phoenyx Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
and i agree, i asked if it was right. i thanked Him for her everyday. and i am asking Him to bring her back. this isn't all me. the fact is she was good for those boys. s9 especially. i will not get into something unless i know, they will not be involved unless i know. she is going through some stuff, and no i don't know whats going on where i am not. but we do have a connection, and we both do have a strong faith. i need to pray for her and give her the benefit of the doubt. all i ask is that you do the same


I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
AmyC #1466190 06/02/08 07:44 PM
Joined: Jul 2007
Posts: 4,626
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Jul 2007
Posts: 4,626
Quote:
No.
You just jumped in ass over teacup because it all seemed so wonderful to you. YOU thought it was "meant to be" and that was good enough for you so why bother asking God? If it "feels" good it MUST be heaven sent, right? Hmmphhh.


Ass over teacup, i never heard before. I love learning new sayings. Or is that just an Amy saying?

Pray about it Tiger.
. Your babies or her child getting hurt really is the most important thing here.

What she has done may turn out to be a blessing in disguise later for you. I know not what you want to hear now.


Cowboy Up, Ppppphfffttt ;\)


Live Simply
Love Generously
Care Deeply
Speak Kindly
Leave the rest to God
phoenyx #1466191 06/02/08 07:45 PM
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
phoenyx Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
put it this way, it would be easier at this point to walk away. i am going back in fighting, for the benefit of the 5 of us..... not just me


I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
phoenyx #1466210 06/02/08 08:00 PM
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 10,659
F
fig Offline
Member
Offline
Member
F
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 10,659
instead of fighting persay...hows about just breathing a little bit


stop planning

start getting humble

fig #1466233 06/02/08 08:11 PM
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 9,678
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 9,678
I have no words of wisdom for you right now.

But I am sending (((((hugs)))))

and a gentle reminder.....

BREATHE before you do anything else.


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
brandnewday #1466263 06/02/08 08:36 PM
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
J
Moderator
Offline
Moderator
J
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
Quote:

it would be easier at this point to walk away.


The easy path is seldom the right path.

Good for you Blynd.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

phoenyx #1466795 06/03/08 03:10 AM
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 10,147
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 10,147
Richie, sorry I am late to todays fricasse... I like my Richie well done thank you and I believe AmyC has cooked your asss pretty well today

Look dude, here's what I will say to you right now. When we spoke last night I heard two different BF's, I heard one that was clear and concise when you spoke of your faith in her and yourself, and then I heard one full of fear as you spoke of not knowing what to do, can't understand how quickly this turned.

Yet, in the midst of all of this you hit one very huge point that I am not sure you are remembering today. You mentioned that you were aware that this moved very fast. You said maybe this is God's way of slowing YOU down. You spoke of your strength in faith. Not for nothing, but that is exactly where your mind needs to be today.

You need to find within yourself the strength to believe that something greater than yourself is controlling this situation and that you have to let go. You have zero control of any of this. There is nothing...did you get that word... NOTHING that you can do right now that will help your situation except to put it in God's hands and allow him to show you the path.

Right now your posts sound like a person who is doubting their faith. Unable to trust that what is occurring in their life is occurring for a reason. One that you yourself verbalized last night. "Maybe this is God's way of slowing me down". What a great epiphany, however if you have an epiphany, and then choose to ignore it, the big guy tends to get a little pissed and show you what he thinks when you don't have faith in him.

Amy is telling you to DB, she is telling you to WALK THE TALK.... Do you get what she is saying to you? This is not a special situation where it is not necessary to do what you have learned to do when dealing with relationships. How do you feel when you are reading in Newcomers and you hear one of them post that their situation is different....unique.....special... and the things that everyone else are doing do not work in their situation. It drives me fricken nuts because DBing is not about situational circumstances, it is about communication and life style.

Man up doesnt necessarily mean be a man, it may in fact mean be the man that we all know you are....understand?

You have a great head on your shoulders Richie, now quit fukkin around and use it please......... There are a lot of us here who have a great deal of faith in you, maybe you should to.


Ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09

sofaraway #1466849 06/03/08 03:56 AM
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
phoenyx Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
you're right. and i needed to man up. i did send her a text today, because wheather or not it ends up working out it needed to be said, and now i feel better, and i guess right now that is the main thing. the exchange was kind of wierd....

me:
i want you to know that i fired off some things out of anger and hurt. i am sorry. you are an awesome woman and still a very important part of my life

her:
yep....i heard all about it

me:
i mean the things i said to you. what are you talking about

her:
whatever

me:
????? I have no clue what you are talking about. All that matters is that you know I am sorry for the things I texted you and emailed you

her:
k


now i'll wait, if she calls she calls, if she doesn't she doesn't. either way i will be okay


I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
phoenyx #1466852 06/03/08 03:59 AM
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
phoenyx Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 2,319
and believe me ian, i know that every word you say is correct. i need to slow down, focus on my life. it seems like a hard lesson, if i have to lose her though. i realized that yesterday, that is what i needed to do. i will focus on my own issues.


I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
phoenyx #1466853 06/03/08 04:00 AM
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 10,147
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Oct 2006
Posts: 10,147
Quote:
now i'll wait, if she calls she calls, if she doesn't she doesn't. either way i will be okay


Better....Now no more texts....emails.....smoke signals.....nada.....comprende?


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09

Page 8 of 15 1 2 6 7 8 9 10 14 15

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp. 1996-2025. All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5