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if you were her

what would you want to hear?

ooooh
i have to think about that

she would want me to be honest and tell her what i was feeling

she would want me to be honest and tell her what i was feeling

you sure?

you sure she would be able to hear it?

i don't know...
i guess i should just keep it short and supportive

i didn't forget them(if she brings them up)
i may have been harsh with you, and made some decisions in the heat of the moment. i respect you enough to give you your space, you can call me when you are ready

get out your 2X4's but i know what she is going to respond to, i know what happened.

i didn't forget the ring or the key
f, i am going to be the man that finally treats you how you deserve to be treated. i am going to honor you, cherish you, and most importantly respect you. first and foremost i want to know that you are okay. we don't need to be focused on getting married or anything than a pace that we are both comfortable with in a caring, secure, mutual relationship. i realize that you are confused right now. i want you to take some time, sort through things. call me when you are ready to.

she hates girley men, but hates being made to feel like less. does this do that?

what if she never asks of you forgot the ring and key

what if she already knows

and

you are making yourself mental because of a scenerio that may never happen

and

how disappointed will you be if she never asks?

no, it's not just about the ring. i'm sure she already knows. it's not just that scenerio. the stuff abotu the ring doesn't have to be in there. i am just saying that i expect her next contact to be about what i left. the context is what i want to get accross. i want to know if you all feel that is appropriate to say to her next time she contacts me

but what I am saying is what if she never asks you about the stuff you left....

what if she already KNOWS

what if she really needs a break and you are planning for a scenerio that never happens

what if she never asks????

i mean she may not
she may know you love her and you honor her

she may not ever ask why you left things there


I know when people leave things it is because they are offering an opening later on

let her acknowldge that for 5 mins
let it sink in

stop planning the next move in a scenerio that may never happen

you will make yourself mental