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Just remember where I was at in January. Me, one of the so called 'seasoned' DB'ers. YOU talked me back from that place. YOU got me grounded. Now remember how crazy that was.

Look in the mirror. Talk RICHIE back to the ground.

You know what the story is. Live it.

Do not go to the house. Leave the stuff there. You are running so fast to reject her. Cool it down and let life happen.

She didn't lie to you about her feelings. Remember in "The Way Of The Superior Man", the chapter called "Women are not Liars". They speak from their feelings at that moment. She DOES have those feelings. She seems to also have some other unresolved feelings too.

Be the Superior Man and stay out of the tempest while she sorts herself out.

well we did go and get the stuff. the way i see it, it stops me from calling her because she wants her space. if it was anything else but those books and family pictures, and herlooms, i would have left it. i left the ring and my house key. she didn't take down any pictures. my brother says i don't communicate well and that i am too uptight. he said if she knows me she will understand why i did this. it may have been a mistake, time will tell. if she calls she calls i guess. everyone seems to think she will. if she asks about the key and ring, i will tell her that i left them for her, i want her to call me when she wants to talk. hopefully that's enough.

got some sleep. layed in bed and thought about things. i hope that she will look aat the key and the ring as leaving the door open. don't realy know what to say if she thinks i forgot them.

also i think, that this space will be good for me too. to be honest, maybe i was getting a little freaked? i guess we went too fast, and maybe without trying out too much pressure on each other.

Goodmorning Tiger!

Um Que Paso, Up in here!





But , I thought the peeps on here, and on the last thread, said that was not going to be such a hot idea right now.


Hmm Justificatioin much?

You are spinning, sweetie. I get it, we all get it.

But now the difference is that you have instant presto advice, from some wonderful peeps here before you make a move.

Listen, try to be still, and Breathe!

i know, time will tell if it was a mistake, i just don't want any reason to call her. it's for me, not for appearence. also, i want my boys life back to normal as soon as possible.

i just don't know what to say to her when or if she calls.

i am being still now

Ugh

Tiger....

I am going to tell you what one of my best friends told me this morning

I hope it helps you like it helped me

Breath
in through your nose
out through your mouth

take a minute and remember what is important at your core

what do you need to do for you to be able to breath

you can not solve everything in 5 minutes
it just can not be done

take a break
to remember who you are
where you are

the world will not stop sweetie but you need to breath
let it spin around you while you center

find yourself again Tiger

we can all do this

i know fig, and thanks. i'm just struggling. i'll get through reguardless. i am not a patient person. i am trying to stay busy and not think, at all because than i start second guessing myself, for going last night, leaving the ring and key, some of the things i said, beating myself up over them, wondering what she is doing, wondering if it's right. i am staying strong, but at the same time, i am confused.

ugh, i accidentaly grabbed her sons ugio cards

So now you think you'll have a good excuse to get in touch with her.

Don't even think about it....