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Thank you everyone, quick note, W not working tonight.
She us going with me and the kids to D9 softball game
so I'm not going to give her the card.

We had a short talk, says I don't understand her.

Says I keep focusing on one thing, (her inability to handle being married with 4 kids she feels like running away) I told her it was something I could put my head around, I could understand. I told her I could not handle the OM, that I would forgive her if she gave up OM. but I cannot handle it.

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!!
Moving Van coming tomorrow

"Yes, wife, I am very much focused on the one thing that's the immediate obstacle to our marriage right now, in my opinion."

That's good, and if she doesn't agree, what does she see as the immediate obstacle to your marriage right now??? Karen

During my wife's affair, she kept saying (classic script) that "he's not the reason we're having problems." And I would say "I agree -- but he is ABSOLUTELY the most immediate obstacle to us beginning to work on SOLVING our problems right now."

Truth dart.

Thanks everyone, I'm back home, Puppy I love this line, I think the best: I always enjoy the little things, simple mind, I see my kids smile and that's all I need. I get a kiss from my little girls and wow, I'm so happy. Movie night with family means more to me than anything and on and on and on. Thanks everyone for keeping me in your prayers. I need to visit your post and at least say hello, I know I'm getting more from you than I give and I'm sorry.

Puppy and everyone, you know W didn't work tonight, so I couldn't give her the card. I had to do it face to face. see prior post. One thing I didn't post yet, after W got out of the shower, to get ready for D9 softball game, I went upstairs and walked into the bathroom, she was naked, I looked her in the eyes and said, I don't like fighting with you, I don't like it,she said she didn't like it either. I also said I could forgive her if she would get rid of the OM.

I took kids to D9 game, W said she would meet us there, she was drunk when she arrived. We all had some fun, I talked to all the families, found out one guy and his W are heading for D wow, its all over the place.

W told me she had to pick up a couple of items from the store, some milk etc. that was 3 hours ago, I'm not stupid, why me God.

FYI, I don't expect W will climb into bed with me tonight. Again, I'm sorry I do not post more for everyone here, I'll try more. I don't know if I can give anyone any good advise, but I can listen.

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!!
Moving Van coming tomorrow

(((((Jeff))))). Don't apologize. We all need a bit more attention now and then and that is fine. That is what friends are for. Why don't you put the card in her stuff and then she can "find" it?

I really don't know what to say right now that could ease your pain...just that I am here if you need to talk. You are in my prayers.
kat

Jeff, if she's 3 hours late and drunk, SCREW HER -- she doesn't DESERVE to be in your marital bed.

Puppy

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I always enjoy the little things, simple mind, I see my kids smile and that's all I need. I get a kiss from my little girls and wow, I'm so happy...... Movie night with family
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

Adding my prayers. Keep the high road

Don't worry about us, Jeff! I've been praying for you too and my thoughts are with you! I agree with Puppy too--she does not deserve you (well he kind of said that)!!!!

Hey Jeff - like you, I have taken a short break from posting more on the site - we all need that sometime.

You are a saint. Of all the posts I have read, you have taken the road higher than the high road! Be sure to treat yourself well, your attitude is great, but don't short change yourself ever - and I don't think you have.

CBK