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I wish. This week has been rough because last week was so fun. Time to do some more GAL.

(((jon))) Yeah, the GAL definitely helps.

All part of the roller-coaster. Isn't it fun?

Lol. I think I'd rather go on a real roller-coaster.

Oh, one little tidbit, W's introducing herself with my last name again, and using her e-mail by that name. She made a huge point of going by her maiden name when this all first happened, re-adressed her mail, changed e-mails, etc.

Sounds great to me! Too long since I've been to Six Flags. Where are the good ones around there?

LITTLE?!?!?!?! I don't think there is anything little about that!!!!!!

The goes on the huge list of positives from last week!

As for Six Flags, there is one in Vallejo and further out on the coast. I need to go again lol.

(((Jon)))

It helps to see how you are handling it to make sens of looking at things from another perspective. You have great strength!!! And sometimes it does take someone from the outside to tell you that you are making progress!

Well, we were also at Doctor's offices that have her on file that way, but it was definitely a nice change. Back in September she wrote a note to my parents and siblings "I'm sorry for the pain I have caused, may God give you peace as he has me". Signed, her maiden name. Ticked everyone off. At least she's done with all that acting "peaceful" crap.

Well, NC since Tuesday, which is strange. When I talked to her Tuesday she said she was at the airport, so she must be on a trip somewhere. No idea why. She also called me from Phoenix a couple weeks ago with no explanation. Not worried though, I seriously doubt OM, or a new one, has anything to do with it.

Best case is she flew to New York to visit SIL. I love SIL, and she's been very supportive. I don't talk to her any more at W's request, but I can tell she's working behind the scenes. SIL moved to New York to live near an internet boyfriend. FIL, of course, completely disapproves. W says they're great together, I've never met the guy but he sounds great. They're even leading a lot of stuff at church together.

The funny thing is, FIL has now told W that he never approved of me, never wanted us to get married, but didn't forbid us because he didn't want to lose her. A-hole. I wish he'd forbidden us, we would've done it anyway. Now W tells me that SIL is almost engaged, they're already picking out kids names, etc. FIL still completely disapproves, and he's trying to turn W to his side.

Got all that? She's in the middle of a whole bunch of family drama. And she's starting to realize that her dad's a controlling ass. I couldn't be happier. And I'm off to Chicago next week for a business trip!

Hang in there.

You sound really good!

FIL sounds like he might actually be pushing her back towards you. Let him and the drama do it's work. Reality isn't always fun when you don't have a partner to rely on, someone to help you out, protect you even.

(((jon)))

Sounds like if she looks at her life she'd see family drama and bad headaches on one end, and calm, peaceful, understanding you on the other.
Not too tough of a choice there.

You're doing great. There's nothing little about her using your last name again. That's BIG! She's thinking.