whatdidido: What did she say when you told her that you would remain faithful while she won't?
she didn't say much, she said "I know" and that was it.
She seems to be moving in a direction to have a fulltime job and not have to be at work until 10am, something with the bar she works for now, I need to sit her down and tell her I've been accomidating up to this point, but I do not want her over at the house everyday. This point I will not back down on. yes she will be there to help take the kids to soccer, or whatever in the evening once or twice a week, but on a daily basis, I do not want her over at the house. She wants the best of both worlds, without the day to day hassels of raising 4 kids.
She said a while back that she has been finding out who she was over the last 3 years, and a W with 4 kids isn'who she is, or was cut out to be (official reason why she is leaving) we have talked about her becomming a Landscape Architect, a Personal Trainer, etc. (before I knew she had OM and was moving out), I told her once the kids were in school, she could do whatever she wanted and I would support her. Now when she has found herself, she is going to work in a bar ??? what happened to becomming Personal Trainer, Etc. ??? why not look for a job in a field related to what you want to do ???
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life. Why is the right path is always the hardest.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 8 days
She said a while back that she has been finding out who she was over the last 3 years, and a W with 4 kids isn'who she is, or was cut out to be (official reason why she is leaving) we have talked about her becomming a Landscape Architect, a Personal Trainer, etc. (before I knew she had OM and was moving out), I told her once the kids were in school, she could do whatever she wanted and I would support her. Now when she has found herself, she is going to work in a bar ??? what happened to becomming Personal Trainer, Etc. ??? why not look for a job in a field related to what you want to do ???
I think your W sounds a bit like my H and other WAS around here. Not wanting responsibility, wanting to be single, not making good choices in their life. I think my H is in MLC and maybe your W too? I hope in time no matter what happens with my M that my H will eventually start acting more normal and less like a teenager. Logical thinking seems to go out the window right now for them...Karen
I originally thought W was going throught MLC - who knows, who cares - I just want her to leave, and get on a set schedule with me and the kids.
Everytime I see her walk out the door, I hurt and I want that to stop. I'm going to have to set boundries, If she doesn't like it our only other option is D and let the L work out custody. She doesn't want custody becasue it defeats the purpose of her moving out, the situation of being a mom with 4 kids.
I know she is doing everything she can to stop the aging process and look younger, she has turned into a heath nut, but because she thinks she looks better tan, she has been going to a tanning spa, all winter.
FYI, I have been kissing her more, last night before bed (she still sleeps on the couch) and this morning before I left for work, she is right there, we watched a movie last night and she sat right next to me, and this morning she followed me to the front door.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 5 days
She started sleeping on couch several weeks back, right after she told me she found a apartment
We went to the pool Sunday and Monday as a family, W and I sat down and watched the kids play and we talked and talked, joked around, for hours just like nothing is happening between us.
We have always had a good rapport (connection/understanding) she laughs at my jokes we can talk about anything and everything it only gets painful when we talk about her leaving or OM.
She must feel this also (our connection), how well we get along, we know each other so well, we finish each other sentences.
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life. Why is the right path is always the hardest.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 5 days
We went to the pool Sunday and Monday as a family, W and I sat down and watched the kids play and we talked and talked, joked around, for hours just like nothing is happening between us.
We have always had a good rapport (connection/understanding) she laughs at my jokes we can talk about anything and everything it only gets painful when we talk about her leaving or OM.
She must feel this also (our connection), how well we get along, we know each other so well, we finish each other sentences.
WW and I are exactly the same. Always have been even till this day. Joking. Kids. Close. Best friends. When talk about OM or her leaving or our marriage comes up, forget it. The green eyed monster finds its way out of her.
I cannot fathom how they can do it.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
If I had a coke for every time we could do the "pinch poke" thing, I could stock several stores. We do it constantly. We say the exact same thing at the exact same time. Every time we do it, we just look at each other and give ourselves the look.
And smile.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Hi pastor, my mistress and I really enjoyed your sermon on marital commitment...
gForce,
EXCELLENT! ROTFLMAO!
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
