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I think i have yours... will confirm with manuel..

Thanks TAL

Thanks TAL,
Appreciate it.

JAK

Mat,

Wanted to post to you but your thread is locked.

Maybe telling DD that if she wants dad to hear what she is saying she needs to tell him her feelings then ask him to repeat what she said. If he doesn't follow through after that at least she knows he listened then the rest is up to him.

JAK

Journaling,

The last couple of days have been so bad here at work that I wanted to walk out. I deal with people all day long and normally love it but as of late they have been getting very nasty if you can not give them what they want.
I think the economy being what it is makes people this way, but I feel stressed enough that I don't need the other stuff on top of it.
I am still trying to deal with my emotions over what has happened the last week and a half. Getting there but still working on me.

A friend Of H's was just diagnosed with colon cancer. Im'e wondering what is going throguh H's head right now. so much happening to people around us.
I mentioned to H that I would like it if he got a check up and he said nothing. I won't bring it up again.

Hope today is good. It's Friday.

JAK

Ugh sorry jak! I know, I think people are getting more and more stressed lately and it's making things tougher everywhere - work, heck even the grocery store people seem grouchy lately.

(((jak)))

Wow, so much going on in your lives. I hope your H will open up and share with you.

Nik,

Certainly know what you mean there I am a partime manager to a small grocery store and I can see the grouchiness there also.

JAK

haha OMG JAK I'm so sorry, I honestly didn't know that's where you worked and didn't mean to use your field as an example! The checkers etc. at the grocery store I usually go to are always super bubbly and friendly, but have been really grouchy in recent weeks.. that's the only reason that particular example came to mind. I'm sure it's in response to listening to customers complain all day long about rising prices.

I've made it a personal challenge to be extra positive when interacting with people lately - even if the person I'm talking to isn't in a great mood. It's amazing how it can help YOU feel better but sometimes lift their spirit too. Tough to do it all day long, though, that's for sure.

SO true! I basically had a fast food worker verbally assault me (I had added an extra toy to the order, and it wasn't in the bag...the horror to help me replace it...). I was nice, she was horrible. On the way home, my D6 said "Mom, the lady was horrible to you, but you stayed nice the whole time". Wow. I said "Well, I tried to make her feel better, and I didn't want it to ruin my day with you".

Long story short, just a 'hijack' and a "hi Jak"

Oh so true,

Hi ladies,

My real job during the day is an Outreach Coordinator at a Health Center. Thus dealing with sick or very low income Patients all day long.
I work at the store part time as a manager to help the owners out with a responsible older person in charge. My son worked for them for years while he was in school and for a few years after. Thats how I ended up there. Now it helps pay for gas.

Don't have much to report. H and I Just stayed home all weekend working on the yard. Pretty boring. Worked On oldest D's baby Shower that is in Two weeks at my house out doors. Hope it doesn't rain as I wil have to rent a tent.

I have been reading Sandi's thread and find so much info there about H's EA and the fact that he still has feelings for her. I have a hard time with this givin the fact that it has been almost 2 years and almost a year that he has said that they only spoke when it was about work. You would think that he would be getting over her. I am trying hard to be his Cheerleader and validate him.

I just feel that there are still three of us in this M and there shouldn't be. As much as he is trying to be present in the R with me, I still feel that.

JAK