Hi LWB! My H is too, I think. Sometimes I feel frustrated or something that it doesn't seem fair H can just walk away from our family and much of the responsibilities, but it has made the kids and I have a very strong, special bond that I don't think we're going to lose. So he is missing out in some ways for sure! But of course that was something our H's decided to do, so I don't feel too much empathy for them!!! Karen
I sit here in tears. H just left. We had a horrible awful fight tonight. Words that hurt flew all through the air. I walked away, but was guilty of yelling too. We have so much anger. H will not budge on the house, says I am selfish, the whole bit. Once again our cycle, I try to stay on track and he brings up my 'list of why you are a horrible wife'. It was not pretty. I am very uncomfortable with the hate he has for me, and the hate that is growing in my heart.
I had a wonderful mothers day until H came to see the girls. He is dead inside, and can't even acknowledge the day. He had the girls make a cake and card, but can't tell ME Happy MD. He said "I have no emotion for you, why would I say anything?". Wow.
This is from my H who has been chasing me around the house for weeks for sex. And didn't get any. Lost, dead inside, fog, confused, angry, hurt..you name it, he feels it. But he is directing his frustration at me.
H refuses to fill out his part of a financial disclosure for my work. I could get fired. He doesn't care, thinks its hilarious that I might lose my job (remember, he hates my job, thinks I am too wrapped up in it). He said "Let 'em find the info themselves". I don't think he is hiding anything (just won't gather info on 2007 salary and retirement funds, which I don't have access to. Nothing like debt, at least I hope not). I have a call into my office, this is due this week. Not good.
Bright side: My girls are amazing. D3 handed me a wrapped nickel in church today and whispered "Happy Mothers Day mama", loud enough for a few people to hear. I was beaming. D6 made me a sausage and banana casserole. lol!! I choked a few bites down (those are 2 of my least favorite foods, by the way...not a meat eater most of the time, and threw up one too many bananas during pregnancies). I love my girls, they are my world. I hope I am theirs as well.
Oh Honey of course you are. My D7 must have told he 20 times today Happy Mother's Day. They are the reason we keep going. I am so sorry about your H. Is there any way you could talk to some one in HR and explain your current situation which I would say is certainly hostile at the moment?
And don't think for one minute that any of his words of hate have merit. He is in a far away place and is not who he appears to be. I just put on my thread that I think my H is like the H on Men in Black that gets taken over by an alien. We are going to get through this. I had a bad day yesterday but really not because of anything H did, I watched too many feel good family movies in a row. We are going to take our breaths one at a time and look in our little darlings faces and take another breath for them. We wouldn't have them if it weren't for our wayward S, so we have to give them just the tiniest bit of credit. LOL Vent as much as you want. I am listening. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
((((((LWB))))), I'm so sorry that your H tried to ruin your special day. Pay no attention to the crazy man...
Those little girls worship you, they know what a very special mother they have. We all have picked up on here how terrific you are, I can only imagine how wonderful you are in person.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
[/quote]Your H got his days mixed up. He obviously thought it was Happy JackAss Day. His day to shine. [quote]
DITTO TO THAT REMARK!! Obviously he thought that it was June 15th and he had the right to act like such an a$$. I bet you wouldn't have treated him like that on his day.
Hope your day goes better to day LWB.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Karen