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Good Luck with the house!!!!!...still don't know how your H can be involved and not have a future with you somewhere at least in the back of his mind....sorry i keep coming back to this but I can't understand it. Am i the only one?
Hope your medical issue is resolved positively.

It sounds like a great house and the location is perfect. If the seller does not take your last offer, you might just give in to his 1000 under as I think you will regret not getting this house.

I like your happy theme - it is much more uplifting than Beavers. This should be your theme song: Happy Happy Joy Joy

Yeah, I like to think he will find his way home sooner or later. I just can't waste my life dwelling on it and wondering when it will happen. His mom told him to file last week (not b/c she wants him to, but b/c she thinks he has been jerking me around and is giving "tough love", in her words). He said, "I can't, I love her." So we'll see.

I am sure he is surprised by my attitude about this house. I am getting the house I want, and I have already decided how I want it to look inside. I am the one handling all the negotiations, and since he has been in sales for 12 years, he typically does ALL negotiations. I hardly talked to our realtors on the past 4 homes we bought. (Same goes for cars)So this is very new to him, me taking charge and doing things myself.

pps. This just in, the guy accepted my offer (except he pays the warranty, I pay the inspection)!

BBJ, congrats on the house, but I bet he's going to be a pain in the butt to work with through this whole process. Just be prepared. Stick to your guns through the process and don't mention that you have to move into this house because you're moving. He'll hold that over your head. If you squabble about something just say, "well fine, we'll get a storage unit and move in with my in-laws until the next house closes." And since you're paying for the inspection, make sure it's an inspector of your choosing, not his. You want somebody working for YOU in the inspection, not the seller.

I love buying/selling properties. Almost went into RE about four years ago, but saw the writing on the wall with sixteen thousand new agents every second. One day I probably will.

First I thought you meant my H would be a pain in the butt...which is always possible, too! Thanks for the support and the heads-up...

Hehehe. I didn't mean H, I meant the guy who's selling. Just be prepared. You can usually tell from the get-go how they are going to act.

Awesome BBJ.

By the way "This just in, the guy accepted my offer"

I like the "my" part.

I'm very proud of you.

congrats on the house!!!!!

HE SAID WHAT TO YOUR MIL???????? "I can't, I love her".....that's what i thought all along....give him a little more time...then you can decide if YOU want him back!

Thanks, you guys! Love the support and affirmation.

I was up until 11 thinking about the house, and up at 4 am thinking about it. I was thinking about a few things that wouldn't work if it were "ours"--no room for the pool table H bought in Pasadena, not enough room for all of H's tools, etc.

But then I thought, "I am buying this house for ME. If I like it, that is what matters. If he decides to come along he can deal with it for a few years until we build on his family's farm."

That is when I KNEW I was going to buy this house. And I am fine with it being MY house. In fact, it sounds terrible, but if H comes back I hope he waits until I am done moving everything in where I want it!!

Oh yeah, John, that is what he said to his mother. But b/c he is an immature preschooler, he may still file in the midst of a tantrum

Conratulations Bbj,

I am happy for and proud of you too!! I don't quite get all these offers/negotiations thing (it's much simplier here) but I am sure you will end up with a/the house you like...

K