Wow, that IS a heavy conversation!My H said something similar this weekend, he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life w/me but is afraid he will wind up hurting me again b/c he doesn't know HOW to make it work.....
Regardless, all the time spent together, the phone calls, and the I Love Yous speak volumes! I am so happy there is continued progress for you and your D. I am glad you are getting closer to that goal........
I truly do see you and your H coming through this together. I think what you are doing now.. being the tough BBJ (although that doesn't mean bi#chy.. which I know you are avoiding being) is what it's going to take to get your man to start his fighting for your marriage!!
W2G, wow you are making great strides. This is nice to read about the positive things going your way. Keep it up and you will be moving to piecing before you know it.
He said today that he doesn't want to lose D2 and I... that a big part of him wants to come home.. but he doesn't know if he can do the long haul.. he said that during the worst part of our sitch.. he knew that he would never commit to anyone.. because, and I quote, "if I couldn't commit and make it work with the person that was the best thing that ever happened to me.. then I can't be committed to anyone." So I said, "you really think I'm the best thing that ever happened to you?".. and he said "without question, I would never be where I am or who I am without your guidance and support.. and I wouldn't have our amazing little girl". all!
So, the next question would be, since you KNOW that, WTF are you doing ? You are risking to lose me, you idiot!!! ATTENTION :DO NOT SAY THESE WORDS TO HIM!!! I was just thinking out loud...
It takes a man to know he is "nothing" without his woman and admitting it... The nicest compliment I've heard here (I also liked J. Nikcolson's "you make me want to become a better person" or something like that in "As good as it gets" movie)
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Just checking in! Yeah, my little one was freaked out when we went to the Rainforest Cafe, too. All the sights and sounds were a little overwhelming, I think. But it is a neat experience!
I re-read what you posted yesterday (I think it was yesterday!) re. your H saying he wouldn't be where he was without you and D. That really does say a lot!