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Sue, Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day and a nice get a way.
kat

Hi everyone-

Thank you for the Mother's Day wishes. I hope you moms had a good day.

The weekend was actually pretty good. One small issue with H. We drove all night Thursday night and got to H's dad's house about 4:30 Friday morning. We napped and then D4 and I got up, got ready and went to see my friends. I told D4 to give daddy a hug & kiss, as it would be late when he got home. He was going to visit friends too. We had a great lunch with my friends. We spent a little time with my FIL & then went to my SIL's house. SIL & BIL are also not getting along, so BIL didn't stick around the house very long and went to meet H to start drinking! Later that night, H & BIL came back to the house. H asked me if I'd take him to his dad's. I did, but let him go to bed & I watched tv. He passed out so there was no cofrontation. OHHHH, and H (drunk) snuck into the kitchen at BIL/SIL's to take a call from OW. I went out there & stood in his face watching him. He got really angry when I asked who it was. It was 11:00 at night. I doubt OW knows that I went with.

On Sat., H went to a baseball game & concert with his brother. D4 and I spent the day with my SIL. We had fun. We went to our nieces softball game, a communion party (SIL's family) & just hung out. It was just a good day. BIL & H got home very late & were both very drunk. H came into the bedroom where D4 and I were sleeping.

H: Do you want to go to my dad's with me?
Me: It's late & we're sleeping.
H: You don't want to be with me?
Me: H, don't do this now. Don't come into the room when we're asleep, you've been drinking & ask me questions like that.
H: Fine. You know this is why we're in the spot we're in now. (blaming it all on Sue again!).
Me: Please don't do this.
H: Fine. You made your decision. (H left the room).

I woke up Sunday morning to find H & BIL passed out in the living room. SIL said that she heard them still up at 5:25 am. They slept until after 1:00 pm. No "Happy Mother's Day" from either one. Nothing. The first thing H did when he got up was grab a beer. He had one. He and BIL joked about the rough night. Just made me sick. So, I ended up driving for the first 4 hours on the trip home. As always, D4 did a great job in the car. She's a wonderful traveler.

When we got home last night, H came into the bedroom & laid down in our bed. He started rubbing my back & told me it was for Mother's Day. It didn't lead to anything more, but it's just strange. I think it was a bit of him trying to keep his control. He knows what my SIL thinks about our situation & about him. Him knowing I spent the entire weekend with her couldn't have made him feel very comfortable. I woke up a few hours later to hear him clicking away on the computer.

Cute D4 story.........I always say to D4..... Guess What? To which she responds, I know, you love me. I tell her yes I do. The other day I asked her if she ever gets tired of me asking her that. She said no. I told her, good, because I don't get tired of telling you. She again said, mommy, I don't get tired of you telling me you love me.

So, I'm feeling pretty good today. I feel better about my situation than I had the past 3-4 weeks. I'm feeling more stable. I know H is a confused mess with other issues. I feel like I'm more in control.

Well, time to get back to work. Have a great day!

SueS

I love the D4 story. I always ask my kids "Who loves you?" When they were young they said, "You do." Now that they are older, they say things like "The dog", or "the cat" and I tease them that they keep failing this very important test. The game is fun, even when they are older.

((((((sues)))))))

He's some piece of work... You need to get away from him, for good.

Love the D4 story too, they are just so darn cute!!

Happy Mother's day:)

Hi Sue You do sound strong and in control and that's great. Glad the trip went better than the last one.

Your H is so messed up right now, and I'm glad you're not letting him drag you down with him. Have to ask again... what are you doing to protect yourself? I worry for you. The drinking.. the driving and irresponsibility. I hope he wakes up and get some help before he gets a DUI or has an accident. ((SUE)). Take care of yourself.

Sheila

I love it!! They are precious.

You are so much stronger Sue. You accepted the weekend and made the best of it. You ignored H's spew and his poor immature behavior on Mothers Day. You amaze me.

Sheila & lwb-

Sorry it took me a few days to respond. Things have been busy at work & quiet at home. D4 has had a cold & has kept me awake at night with her coughing. Poor baby.

I've been trying to get some things done to get myself in a better position for the split. I've paid off some bills and have been checking on some other items. I've been considering changing my life insurance beneficiary to my parents or my sister, as I know that the money would certainly go only to what D4 needs if anything happened to me. Not that I'm worried, but we all know how life can change in an instant!! I don't think H will make me take his bills, but I believe that he has opened another credit card. It seems like he's getting himself further into debt. He's done it a few times before & I want to be out before it gets to bad again.

Life at home has been pretty quiet the past few days. D4 asked me to play a couple of songs on YouTube for her last night. I pulled it up and saw that H had searched and sent the song "The Real Love" by Bob Seger. When H got home last night I asked him if he remembered what our wedding song was. He said no, do you? I said yes I do. I said, I also know that it probably wouldn't have had the same significance to you to send it to OW today if you'd remembered that we'd danced to it and used it as our wedding song. Yes, our wedding song was "The Real Love". I walked out of the room. H was silent & didn't say a word the rest of the time he was home. He wasn't snotty, just very quiet.

My parents were originally going to come here next weekend, but I think D4 and I may go there for the long weekend. It would be nice to get away.

Well, both bosses are out of the office today but it's still a busy day.

Have a good one!

SueS

Sue,

I would take his sending her the same song as a sign of his laziness. He can't even make an effort to find a new song. The guy is pitiful.

Hi Sue,

Glad you are taking steps to protect both yourself and D4 financially. Good deal!

As far as the song, well, look at it this way. This just shows exactly how UN-special OW is, that she is not even worth the effort of finding a new song for her. Pretty darned romantic, eh?

((((Sue))))

Your H.... what an idiot!