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as someone in the S forum once posted "it might be too late but damn if it's going to be too little"

I am writing that one down, cat.

And Kimmie, I am right there in the trenches with you. It hurts. More than I ever thought I could hurt. With all the things I've thrown at it, I think the one that works is time.

If the C you have isn't working for you (ie: with the "move on" stuff) you can always find someone else or tell them you'll move on when you're ready.

I know it hurts in a way I never thought I could hurt. It will get better though. There just isn't another option.

HUGS

ditto on the C, you should be able to leave the office with some sort of satisfaction that you were understood and that your issues where addressed and that your C gave you the kind of help you needed.

I am through with C now, and get support from church instead.

Somebody, please stop me!!! I am so tempted to send H an email wishing him well and a Happy Father's Day. I do admire how he tries to do the right thing by Step-D18, even if it did help break us up.

I just don't know. Our last contact a couple months ago was negative, and then there's the support hearing which left H pretty angry about having to give me more $$.

Does this sound ok to send?

Hi Jimmie

I just wanted to wish you well, and a Happy Father's Day on Sunday. I really do mean that, as I always did admire your dedication to doing the right thing by Andrea.

Kimmie

Kimmie--
Ack. I wish someone who has had a Father's Day or two under their belt responded....

Maybe even less words...?

Happy Father's Day, for all that you've done for Andrea.
Best wishes,
Kimmie

I am trying to figure out the very same thing--I was pissed when x ignored Mother's Day when he called for the kids that day. I don't want to model behavior that ticked me off.

Thanks Donna. I go back and forth about this and I haven't sent it yet. H would probably see it as pursuing because we have had zero contact lately and it would come out of the blue.

Well anyway, I just got back from my graduation and it was nice to be with my family. I'm glad it's over though, and I can cry.

I can't believe I still feel this way.

I am so sorry, Kimmie. I got the initial bomb a full year before you were separated, and it is only now that I am starting to feel better...
each in their own time. Don't be too hard on yourself.

I'm glad you were able to spend time with your family--that is important.

On the other hand, it might shake things up.

Screw it. I'll sleep on it and see how I feel in the morning.