I do not know you or your circumstances so I do not wish to come accross as if I felt I did.
It is my experience, that no matter how wronged any of us were, that we all did have some part to play in where our circumstances went. Yet it is impossible to define for any of us what proportion was one person and what was the other. Frankly, in my situation, I have just stopped asking the question.
My wife left me partly in an act of betrayal. Yet, I had a ton to do with where our marriage had ended up. For me, it is in dealing with my part of problems that I have found a wonderful, bright new life.
My ex continues to stew in her resentments of my part while seemingly doing little about her own part in our marriage breakdown. She has seething resentment toward me. She has used my subsequent journey into drugs and booze as something to point at (which frankly is a easy and glaring target) so she seemingly does not have to look at her own part.
Thats fine. That is her journey and she is free to live it. God truly has granted me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (her), the courage to change the things I can (me, with much work and time), and the wisdom to know the difference.
I tell you .... the amount of peace I get from the outworking of this tired old prayer is amazing. And it applies so amazingly to this sitch with the OM and the judge. I left it completely alone and God took care of it. That is life on life's terms to me.
I would have worn myself out trying to set this guy up for the consequences I feel he deserves. He has other calamity in his life too. It is all seeming to materialize.
