My friend's kids won some carnival fish and they lived for (get this!) 8 years. They couldn't kill them if they tried (and they didn't really try to keep them alive - forgetting to feed/clean bowl). =)
How can a father condone his daughter's affair with a married man???? Some family.
Glad your therapist helped turn around your funk.
(((((lwb)))))
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Oh and therapist mentioned to have my paperwork ready (for mediation), but no need to bring it up by the end of May if I am not ready. But he H approaches me, be prepared and don't fight it. That's what I'll do for now.
I think I'm having a lot of the same feelings as you lately. That sounds good, Lwb! I kind of feel that way too, I'm trying to be prepared for divorce and mediation, and will not fight H or slow down the process, but I'm still going to let him do all the work. Do you think they ever feel guilty for what they're doing at all? My H is such a good rationalizer that sometimes I wonder. Karen
Congratulations on the fish. Isn't it amazing how much kids love them?
Thanks for being a shining example to me and sharing your experiences. I am so afraid of this divorce.. it's good to see how you take the fear out and take action.
I kinda think that Sally has got a good point along with your Therapist. Have the paperwork ready and if H mentions it give him the # to make the appt. see what happens then. In my Op your H is far from done with your M but,you need to act as if he is as far as detachment. Live your life as though he is not coming back except for the dating part, of course unless you decide you are moving on.
Try to have a good day LWB
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
So glad you had a good w'end with your Ds, and that H is being respectful...
That whole business with seeing OW (and I'm trying to remember, is she still OW or is that more or less over?) is such a gut punch, no matter how much you feel you've prepared for it.
So H thinks SallyM is your new man?!?!? If he only knew her whole story
And it really seems like you have the right idea regarding what to do/not do next. As a number of wise DBers have told me in the past, if you are really questioning acting on something, you likely are not ready to do so. It's one thing to not fight actions H may take; quite another to be the one to initiate yourself.
If having H out of your house is giving you space and peace, and there is nothing compelling you to do more, then giving things more time to settle is a good thing for you and your sweet girls...and that's who really matters!!
12/07 H realized she is nuts (and she is...he was at least her 3rd affair) and totally broke it off. She still texts/calls him, even though she is reconciling with her H (ha!). H ignores as far as I know.
Karen
