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I have often (even recently) offered to bring W a drink, or a snack, while she is studying, or watching TV. She almost never accepts anymore, to the point of almost being angry when she turns it down. There have been times when I will offer, and then a bit later I will here her ask one of the kids for something. That's gotten a bit frustrating. But, I think I will try to consistently offer for a while, and see how she reacts.

n_a, I almost always clean up after dinner, and start the dishwasher. I've gone through the 5LL's a few times, and keep coming to the conclusion that her's is "leave me the heck alone!" And so I do. But that's not getting us anywhere.

Ali, I would say that I withdrew from her in reaction to her pulling away. Though I would not be at all surprised if she had a different opinion. It seems that to her, the lack of any physical relationship at all is not a big deal. But for me, it made even sitting in the same room uncomfortable. Sort of like walking through the supermarket hungry, and not even having a dime in your pocket. So I avoid it.

Firekeeper, I have heard or read the same thing. At the same time, the example of a relationship they are seeing can't be a good thing either. So I wonder. Which isn't to say I'm going to leave because of the kids.

Jeanette, I will be working on those boxes. I regret leaving them out to begin with, it doesn't feel like I'll ever be forgiven for that!

Kalni and Lisa! I hope you are right!

(((((WCW))))))
I can't imagine who could have mentioned yoga! Thanks!

I forgive you.

You need to forgive yourself.

And start moving boxes.

Even if she doesn't like that your doing it now...keep moving them.

HUGS!!

Jeanette

Morning Jeff

Congrats on the yoga and surprising your W. Keep up the great work! You will be looking great for summer.

Jeff, I kinda new to your thread - what boxes do people refer to - it got me puzzled

I think Jeanette refers to Jeff's procrastination (lazy) at work, of things not getting done that he says he will do.

I could be wrong.

I often am...I am a man. : )

If only my H would say that!!!!!!!!!

Then of course you are! LOL refer to the rules, wasn't that one #37 Michelle? LOL

Jeff congrats on the yoga and the W surprise...its a 2-fer buddy! Keep doing all those positive things for you and keep the procrastination at bay and you'll be a whole new man by the end of summer. Good job.

Your right!

But it's a bit deeper than that. It stems from moving boxes long long ago.

But thats Jeff's story to tell.

Procrastination sucks! But we all do it. But we shouldn't do it all the time.

Hugs

Jeanette

I believe so. But remember, they're unwritten, so it's kinda hard to tell!