If not gay .... surely, some physical issue? Perhaps he needs a serious medical intervention!?
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If not gay .... surely, some physical issue? Perhaps he needs a serious medical intervention!?
I'm just going to respond to this particular post....because VirginWife has already made up her mind as to what course she's going to take. This is not necessarily accurate...this issue is NOT that cut and dry, and I'd be willing to bet money that he's neither gay or physically impared in any way. If you haven't ever heard of Whore/Madonna syndrome look it up and read about it...it's a dissasociative disorder. I'm dealing with this within my own marriage....and moving forward with a much improved marriage. Believe it or not there are many men out there who have a hard time looking at their wives as sexual beings. They marry the woman who would be a good mom and a good wife, sex often isn't in that equation because it's viewed as a dirty thing...something you wouldn't do with someone you respect. That's just a small snippet of what it can be...but it can vary from man to man. Basically sex is compartmentalized into you marry one type of woman, you have sex with another type.
So basically...my husband absolutely adores me, he totally respects me, and I can tell you from comments of people I know that he lights up when he talks about me to them...he really does love me. I, in his eyes, am the type of woman you marry and commit to for life...choose to raise your children, choose to depend on for everything you need, choose to share your life with...and choose not to defile with something as degrading as sex for pleasure and not procreation. My husband is affectionate to me in the sense that I get kisses (not passionate ones) several times a day. He will snuggle with me on the couch...but initiate sex? That thought rarely occurs to him...and when it does, he squelches it and never actually follows through. The very few times he has done anything...it's been because I have made a big issue out of it...and THAT is after a few years of therapy. I have had to learn to accept that when it comes to us...I am going to have to be the one to intiate any sexual activity. He will generally go along with it, but it's still what I would call very boilerplate sex. There is no passion to it. But due to therapy and being able to now understand what is going on...our marriage is much better. I can absolutely have sex...with my husband, but I had to understand the issues surrounding him and learn how to deal with them...to negotiate them. He's slowly working on turning his thinking around, but it's not easy for him...he's had a lifetime that reinforced the thinking he has.
The more I've talked about this issue and hooked up with more and more women, the more common I've found this problem to be...you'd be amazed! People just don't talk about it....MEN don't talk about it....but it certainly exists in more men than you'd ever guess.
