Part of my 180 is being a lot more funny and silly than I used to before. The OM makes her laugh. I have spent the past few years being way to serious and even now, my D6 pushes the corners of my mouth and says, "smile more, daddy". I told her that she has to remind me when she can.
I used to be such a fun loving guy, and then it all changed at some point. Mostly when nephew moved in a couple of years ago, but that is another story that affected us.
I am have been too serious and unable to laugh at myself. No more. Life is too short.
Everything used to embarrase me, but not anymore. You can prob. tell by my posts, that I always try to inject some humor when I can.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Okay, were we seperated at birth? I am exactly the same way - I was always the joker, fun loving, laughed all the time, made up stories about stuff with the kids - my favorite was when we were driving through some cotton fields, I had my kids convinced they were marshmellow plants - they were young... I was/am concerned so much about what others thought about me, so I slowly became more and more serious. I said the same thing in a post the other day, I am learning to laugh at myself again - that is important - that is part of the person who our WAW's fell in love with I am sure.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
The OM was the one to make me laugh and smile all the time. My H was the serious one as well, and when he did try to joke around it was usually not funny. Remember, what is attractive to her now is the flip of you. Now, being back with H, I love his serious side. I know I am taken care of, I know that nothing will happen to me, that he has it all under control. It allows me to be more of the "free" one.
The OM was the one to make me laugh and smile all the time. My H was the serious one as well, and when he did try to joke around it was usually not funny. Remember, what is attractive to her now is the flip of you. Now, being back with H, I love his serious side. I know I am taken care of, I know that nothing will happen to me, that he has it all under control. It allows me to be more of the "free" one.
WDID,
Hmmm, sounds like no matter HOW your husband acted, it really wouldn't have made any difference so long as you were hooked on OM?
Right, H couldn't change who he was. He could have worked at being more funny, but he is just not that kind of guy. H couldn't be the OM, and the OM was a complete opposite. What H COULD have done was try to work on the marriage. INSIST we see a counselor, TRY ANYTHING to show me he wanted to be with me.....my situation is strange....H didn't know I was seeing an OM and he did NOTHING to get back to living with me. He went to work, came home, played with son, talked for a bit about nothing, then went to his house. EVERY day.
Right, H couldn't change who he was. He could have worked at being more funny, but he is just not that kind of guy. H couldn't be the OM, and the OM was a complete opposite. What H COULD have done was try to work on the marriage. INSIST we see a counselor, TRY ANYTHING to show me he wanted to be with me.....my situation is strange....H didn't know I was seeing an OM and he did NOTHING to get back to living with me. He went to work, came home, played with son, talked for a bit about nothing, then went to his house. EVERY day.
Right, H couldn't change who he was. He could have worked at being more funny, but he is just not that kind of guy. H couldn't be the OM, and the OM was a complete opposite. What H COULD have done was try to work on the marriage. INSIST we see a counselor, TRY ANYTHING to show me he wanted to be with me.....my situation is strange....H didn't know I was seeing an OM and he did NOTHING to get back to living with me. He went to work, came home, played with son, talked for a bit about nothing, then went to his house. EVERY day.
Right, H couldn't change who he was. He could have worked at being more funny, but he is just not that kind of guy. H couldn't be the OM, and the OM was a complete opposite. What H COULD have done was try to work on the marriage. INSIST we see a counselor, TRY ANYTHING to show me he wanted to be with me.....my situation is strange....H didn't know I was seeing an OM and he did NOTHING to get back to living with me. He went to work, came home, played with son, talked for a bit about nothing, then went to his house. EVERY day.
Then how does this jibe with "acting as if"??? Doesn't this contradict that?
Yeah....If H had known about the A, the "acting as if" would make sense. BUt, since he didn't......I was waiting on him to show me he loved me and that he wanted to be with me.......
