First a very happy new year to you all. May it bring peace and joy...
Sadly it's started on a low ebb for me and I would appreciate (with apologies for intruding on the thread) any input into my latest developments... http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1315467 With sincere thanks for your wisdom and friendship.
I have received no contact from my wife or son in months.
Daughter tried to make arrangements to visit, but was given excuses. Her mother did not want to drive on the Highway and collect her. WTF she used to drive on the highway daily to and from work! She suggested daughter get the train. With 2 changes in major cities, daughter was not confident enough, she expressed that she was only 15. That was met with, well you can fly hundreds of miles on your own! Then wife was too busy, had arrangments to go out, so it was not convenient.
All exchanges were done by eMail, daughters credit had run out on her phone, wife would not ring the house phone or my mobile. All pathetic, needless and hurtfull.
As a visitiation was quashed, daughter sent her presents by mail. This has not been reciprocated. I would suggest that they had arrived as daughter had a call last night. Very short, all I heard was "No, we are in the car". Wife cannot even talk to her daughter on the phone, if I am anywhere near.
Equally as hurtful, I have not heard from my son since August, he has not contacted any of my side of the family, his grandparents, uncle or me. All of whom, have overcompensated him with presents, love and money, in the last 3 years, to help compensate for what has happened to him.
I wonder if this is his mothers influence, a teenager thing, or a chip off the old block.
(((((((Simes))))))) I am sorry. I also think that your Son has to make his Mother happy. The poor kid is in the middle of this crap and one day he will find out the truth. ((((((((hugs))))))) I can't imagine how painful this must be for you and your Daughter, sending you love and prayers.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Concerning my son I think you are right, he is nearly 18, so that is why I am not pushing it, he would be leaving the nest anyway. Just hurts that there is no contact.
I know what my daughter and I are going through is no worse than anyone else on this site. I have not had the direct venom and spewing that you received. My thoughts, daily, are just what might have been.
Simon, I can't imagine how it must feel to have had not contact with your son. I know it was his choice to stay with his mother but at his age I would've thought he would still stay in contact BUT then we none of us can really say what another will do even when they are our flesh and blood.
I hope this situation improves soon.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
