No, not a dare. I just don't think she needs to let something fester if she's dying to type what she thinks. She should be able to vent here just like anyone else.
Like I've said here today, I KNOW I know HOW to do the things I've been told countless times before. It's actually getting myself to DO those things that's my problem. I'm afraid to jump in and do them.
You think he's just a WAH? Then why hasn't he filed yet for a divorce yet?? Why haven't you told me before that you don't think it's MLC? That's interesting you don't think he's in MLC.
I'm not sure what I'm afraid of. I guess putting my foot down and setting boundaries but then having those blow up in my face.
He left me because I was mean and couldn't take that along with the bankruptcy. I went over this. He says he isn't returning yet because he's still thinking things through.
He says he isn't returning yet because he's still thinking things through.
Dar, If he is saying the above then let him be to do his thinking.
In the meantime move forward with your life.
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
You need the boundries not only for you but for your h too. I had a hard time setting those too. The C is a good idea. I was a mess before going but she really helped me to cope and to set boundries.
Don't get suck in the sitch. Do something for you!!!!!
He left me because I was mean... why were you mean? What have you learnt about your behaviour and how are you different now?
Also..why are you goading people into having a go at you? Not that they are "having a go" but, why are you almost begging them to be firm or exasperated, or lecture you, or whatver? I find it a bit odd when you implore someone...
So go ahead Jeanette. Why let something fester. If I bug you then just say it. I know you mean well (or at least that's how I'll take it).... thats quite odd Dar. I wouldnt want to encourage someone to tell me that I bug them. Do you think maybe you have low self-esteem or something? Or expect to be spoken to badly? I dont think people should 2x4 you if you are inviting them to, thats too wierd. Its like collusion.
I agree with the poster who said your H saying "I'll give you a call" is like a kind of offhand, general thing that people say, when in actual fact, weeks could go by and he doesnt. Its not like he meant anything by it particularly, the thing is it means FAR more to you than he intended. He ought to be more sensitive and realise you would be expecting a call then, but from everything you have said about your H here, he doesnt sound like the sensitive type.
Do you actually still love him Dar? Enjoy his company? Respect him? Becuase he has treated you incredibly badly and let you down a lot, but you seem to be immune to his faults? Just wondering!
I'm really pleased to hear you are progressing the T.. can you call the Doctor and ask him for the recommendation, instead of waiting for him to get back to you? Better still, just pick a name that feels right and phone one of them, you can tell instantly if you think its someone you will be able to talk to/work with. I ditched one C straight away after 1 minute on the phone and the next person I got was lovely and a huge help.
Just do it !? Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
